Well, you did the first and most important step, to be done with alcohol!! Also, I would check out a few AA meetings in your area, to hear what folks have to say. I think you will find that you connect to their stories on many different levels. You will also have a support system to help you with your sobriety. I couldn't imagine doing this alone!

And keep posting here, if you have any comments and questions. You will find we are really supportive and knowledgeable.

xox

Thanks diva! i went to AA once and there was alot of people struggling with serious drug addictions. i felt out of place

Welcome.
You sound like me....I drank a bottle of wine a night...or more...most nights for years. And I got so sick of being sick and anxious.
On staying sober...I had no problem stopping. I stopped all the time. For a few days, months, even a year+. But I would drink again as my sobriety without a program, was uncomfortable at best.
I found AA to be the solution.
I havent heard about drugs in AA. If you don't like the first meeting, go to another. Go to a closed meeting for alcoholics. You will find what you are looking for.

Congratulations on choosing to be sober. I suggest an AA meetings to help get you through the first few months of your new freedom. You will find other people there who are striving to live sober also and there's lots of good wisdom in those rooms.
Also it helps to kill the time that you are used to using to drink. I found some of the hardest times in the beginning were because everyone I was used to being around drank. At the end of my drinking I drank alone so getting out to a meeting and being around others was good for me, uncomfortable at first but very good for me as my head cleared and I made a few friends. I have not drank in almost six years now and life is amazing. It can be amazing for you too.
You are not alone.

Good for you. Sobriety is great. What a way to live. I'm not saying the shit fairy never stops by, but not drinking is the way to go. I've been doing it, one day at a time, now for 23 years. It can be done. Go get it. Don't mind those people who talk about drugs, they are just like us. Desperate to change their way of living. Insane with addiction, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Get some phone numbers of some women if you can. Say your name and tell them you are new. Good Luck.

1st things 1st... One day at a time.. Dont try to plan your entire existance around being sober, just for today!

Wake up in the morning & say a little prayer, please help me stay sober TODAY!

Before gong to be "Thank you for keeping me sober TODAY
Before you know it, those days turn into weeks & weeks into months

Attend AA meetings, as many as possible at first, get a sponsor, take suggestions and do the steps!

You will find a new freedom!

Prayers & best wishes to you

thanks guys for all your loving words and support. it is an everyday fight and im nervous to be the girl on vacation and scared to have a cocktail and even more scared to be the girl who is drunk all the time and doing and saying things i regret the next morning, so needless to say im nervous..thanks for all the support..daily strength helped me through depression while i was very ill with bronchitis with an underlying asthma disease so i do hope it gets me through this too.

i lost my mother to the bottle and it has hurt my sister alot along with relationship addiction,, I am having a hard time wanting to be a part of AA been hurt there but I am going anyway,,, not drinking of course I need to get back in to the steps sponser i was a member had made some good connections life happened,, so here I am at fifty eight want to give up aging all that crap cant teach anymore feel used up and hopeless but going anyway I feel better but run out before it is over,, my so called romantic person always causes relapse so I am separating , got enough problems and she started her own journey AA is what I need what I do is the opposite no one chip wonder here EGO and PRIDE , OMG bad combo ,, was a prof musician and music teacher you know the terminal special crap there is nothing special about being alone and drinking thanks for listening all warrior

It is unfortunate that some AA meetings allow those addicted to other substances to share in the meeting. Find yourself a 'closed' AA meeting - these meetings are open to alcoholics only and you might find yourself feeling more comfortable there. Also bear in mind that sometimes when we are nervous and in a strange place we are likely to find some of the happenings there somewhat exaggerated.

Good luck!

thanks spirit for sharing! Sorry about your Mom and sister and i'm really trying to just not get to that point where my son feels that