My husband is an alcoholic although he wont acknowledge it. He doesn't think he has the problem, everything is all my fault eg, he drinks because the house isn't clean enough or the kids are too noisy etc. I know these are just excuses. He also smokes a lot of marajuana. I just don't know what to do. He drinks between 14 -20 standard drinks every single day and smokes majuana about 4-6 times per day. How long do I stay in this relationship with him. The only thing keeping me here is my marriage vows and the children, but I worry about the effect this has on us and especially our children. He thinks he is playing with them but he becomes too aggressive for them and they don't understand he is playing. He never remembers anything the next day. He is obnoxious, arrogant and oppressive when he drinks, spitting on me and playing mind games. Even when he is sober he is checking up on who I talk to and what I'm telling people. I have thrown him out for a few days and he asked to come back only for a few days until he found somewhere and he promised to get help. However once he was back in the house he reverted straight back to his old ways in less than 24hrs, hasn't sought any help and refuses to leave again. I know no one can answer this question for me but I'm just wondering how long do I stay with him or when is it time for me and the children to leave. He has become increasingly worse over the years. It's really hard as he is the father of my children and I feel I should stick it out with him, but I just don't feel I have the strength to go on this way for much longer. I want to be left alone, to have a life for my children without alcohol or marajuana. Any advice would be great, thanks.