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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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I am THAT person!

lostnursetoo
lostnursetoo
I stopped drinking for several months and then just started again. I could give you all kinds of reasons and very valid stressors, but no justification. I don't drink and drive, have never missed work, but instead struggle through my days and get everything done all the while saying to myself (every morning or in the middle of the night when I can't sleep) I will not drink tomorrow! And then.... you know the rest of the story! So...I gave my husband my debit card, my check card, and the check book. I have no access to money therefore no opportunity to stop by the liquor store on my way home from work to get that bottle of wine that I am so sure I deserve after working all day. This may seem silly, but honestly for me I think it is huge!! I have way too much pride to ask my husband to give me my cards back! I am determined and he is supportive. Wish me well my friends!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I do. My prayers are with you...

Hugs,
Dennis
deleted_user
deleted_user
Prayersfor you my friend. I am also an alcoholic and using drugs but when I watched that video, I'd realized, I need to be better person. I hope you will be alright.
deleted_user
deleted_user
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umD1R7C6EmM
stickywick
stickywick
Yep, I could have written that post 3.5 years ago. I never got a DUI, I only drank after work, after 5, and I never missed a day at work. But let's be honest here,are we really *all there* when super hung over? I wasnt. Couldn't be.
I hope you find sobriety and happiness. Handing over credit cards doesnt sound like a sustainable solution to a drinking problem.
What else do you plan to do to stay sober?
I do wish you well.
Impermanence
Impermanence
Maybe there is a comorbid condition like depression that needs to be treated. There is a high rate of depression in the nursing field.
lostnursetoo
lostnursetoo
I agree with you Impermanence, but it's the old chicken and egg problem. Is my depression the reason for my drinking or the result of my drinking. Only one way to find out......!

And Sticky, handing over the money is NOT going to be a permanent solution, just the first step I need to take right now. I can't seem to not stop and buy alcohol no matter how many times I tell myself that I am not going to do it so I needed to give up my access so that I can't buy alcohol. If this is a struggle that I can't handle in this manner, I want to go to a rehab. I am tired of thinking about it and struggling every day.
Mishelly2013
Mishelly2013
That was me too....I'm also a nurse. What would you tell a patient who was trying to quit an addiction? "It's ok, don't beat yourself up, just keep trying.....each attempt takes you closer to the one that works for good"
Community LeaderExJerseyGirl2
ExJerseyGirl2
Hi lostnurse,

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling. I think if I was in your spot I would reevaluate depression (as impermanence already mentioned.) I would also take a look at Naltrexone for a short term jump start to help rewire the brain's addiction to alcohol, in addition to counseling and a program like SMART Recovery. (Check out their website, you might find the free tools they offer useful.) Rehab is also another good option.

Kudos for turning over your cards to prevent yourself from buying wine. Yes, it is a short term fix, but it is a positive step and you have your husband's active support in helping you quit.

Keep trying, lostnurse, you can figure this out!
Zachary18
Zachary18
There is also a support group called Women for Sobriety (google it) that focuses on the differing needs/issues women may have in getting/staying sober.
1is2many
1is2many
I could have written this two years ago. The thing is that it's not the buzz that came from booze it was the disconnect that came when drinking. I didn't like me and booze fixed that. But the endless spiraling abyss seemed where I was headed. Until one day June 9, 2014 I decided I was done. I found other ways to live , found some self worth and at all costs don't have the first one.

It works. Get some

1is2
1is2many
1is2many
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1is2many
1is2many
The only way that finally worked was to go to meetings with other alcoholics and they helped me figure out why I drank. I will say thanks also because I remember when I was struggling in and out. It will get better. It will.
hati
hati
Oh lostnurse, I could have written your post. That was me exactly. I think you mentioned once that your husband wasnt keen for you to go to AA. Mine wasnt either, there is a stigma attatched to it but sweet talk him, tell him you want to live a sober life and youve tried everything else. Tell him no one will know. I even told my kids I was visiting a friend as I didnt want them to tell anyone. Good luck hun. x
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand always thinking tomorrow is another day to stop drinking
lostnursetoo
lostnursetoo
Thank you all for your support! It's been almost a week since I had a drink and I am feeling fabulous! It's so funny how quickly we can forget how tired and drug out we feel when we are drinking! I have a spring in my step and feel purposeful again. An added benefit of giving all my money to my husband is that I needed gas in my car and he jumped right up and took the car to be filled....I could get used to this :-)!!

And Hati - I have joined Women for Sobriety and really like their program. Very strength based and positive approach. I would recommend it!
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