Funny one for me to answer that Bob, a lot has changed for me in this area. Something I try not to think about too much.

I have this friend that's been around the fellowship for 20 odd years. He's always the first the stop and buy someone a coffee, walk to the other end of town, walk them home late at night when they have a train to catch in a bad neighbourhood.

He's been involved in telephone service for years. Some of the youngbloods seem keep trying to take over and seem to find him a bit outdated, but he just quietly gets on with things. He's been volunteering with Samaritans for 10-15 years, but funnily enough you never hear that from him just from other people.

Always has time to spare to listen to others, rarely grumbles. A real character with a sense of humour but quiet with it. He has this horrific physical problem that he's been living with for years, but again never talks about it and you just wouldn't know except when you get to know him well or hear it from someone else.

If I can get close to that, I'll be happy

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Paul, I know someone like that too. I know I will never be like that but I have reached a point where I am comfortable with it, and with who I am and where I am going.

I just want to be remembered as a good person, but I fear that I will not.

Great question...have heard this kind of thing before, but this is the first time I am actually thinking about it.
For me, it's way too early to say anything, I think. I lived 40 in a fog, the last 25 in an alcoholic one. It's not even two years, and so I can't say how others would remember me. I certainly have ideas of how I would like to be remembered, but it's not in my control. Not gonna play God on that one. Whatever it is, will be. I can certainly say that I too don't just want to be remembered as an alcoholic, but it's part of my life story and wouldn't want that expurgated from my story.

Here's what Chris's Co worker's remember Chris by I'll keep on aspiring to be this Bob:)

Christine R. 12/25/58 to 12/28/2012

SPRING 2013 by Linda W.,Christine H. and Gina H. coworkers to Chris for almost 20years!

Nearly everyone knew Chris, and Chris knew nearly everyone. She was the kind of person you'd want to share your news with. She listened attentively, whether the news was good or bad, and shared a smile, a hug or a few words of her hard won wisdom.

Some people will remember Chris for her honesty, her sincerity, and the introspectiveness that only comes from dealing with life's challenges. Others will remember her sense of humor, her infectious laugh, her spirituality.

Some will miss her smile and her Patchouli perfume.

She covered her desk with little symbols of faith and love, and was always ready to donate one to someone who needed it more than she did.

People come into our lives to give us something, whether it be a gift, a blessing, or a lesson we need to learn. Chris taught those whose heart's she touched about love, giving and caring for others. That was her gift to us. Christine;s last gift on earth was being an organ donor . Through her generosity and caring for others, she was able to save lives. In honor of her gift, Winthrop Hospital raised a flag on the day she donated organs to save anothers life.

Chris;s death was sudden and unexpected, and she left us way too soon. But Chris's spirit was strong and will always be with us.
Simply put, she was a good egg!!
Billy

From some of the comments on this thread, I'll say this...I'm definitely losing the fear of "what I'll never be" that seems to be coming slowly but definitely coming.

As for what I'll be and be remembered for - who knows. Maybe if I let go of what I think I am I'll surprise myself :o). I'll keep trying meantime

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In my remberance i only want my husband named who has supported me , my papa, aunt and uncle, his parents and as far as parents go and my brother and two step brothers i want nothing. My papa or father knows ive been an addict and he would not put that in writing. but however we did no obit for my mom. we feel that obit cards to people who come are fine but not to newspapers. my family knows what ive overcome and know that my mom and father biological wouldnt be there. my aunt would probualy take over the situation. i live in another state so as far as things my husband knows i want a personal wake and to be cremated. other than that if people still think of me as an addict that is their problem. loosing so many friends to o.d's and suicide it was never in the envolvment of the family to include these things so why would it.

I used to worry that if I died there would be no-one at my funeral.....today I don't even think about it.

Today I know I do the best I can, I know I have a (mainly) good heart and I know I am taken care of.

For some reason, I don't even think about this kindof stuff...just doesn't go into my thought process.

Maybe I will have a think (if I get some space in my brain haha)

I'm with Zen. I want to be remembered as kind. I also want to be thought of as a good mom. That's actually most important to me.

I would like people to say, "It was so wonderful that she lived to the age of 112 and was mentally with it and physically active until the end."

I hope there are people who remember me as making a positive difference in their lives.

I am totally with you Jersey - I want to live for many years and live them to the fullest right to the end.

Other than that - Im not sure Im very worried about how I will be remembered when I'm gone - because Ill be gone then.....