Mostly I just have accepted the fact that I can not be around people that are drinking, it sucks. Finding sober people to hang out with is tough and most of the time they are weird moralistic freaks that want to hit you with a bible. For me getting sober for a few months first gave me more of a reason not to drink when around others. I have slowly started hanging with friends again.

One thing is that I tell people that I am recovering from alcoholism and if they keep offering me booze I have to tell them to go f**k themselves and leave. Friends should be supportive of your decision, but damn I am finding many that are not.

Archery and booze? Goddamn that sounds like a terrible idea LOL!

I didn't for a few months endohunt. Stayed away from drinking situations until I felt I could be okay, and even then I had a plan in case I was edgy. I'm an alcoholic, and needed to focus on getting and staying sober for a while and change a few old habits. When I did venture back, always drove myself so I could leave early, went out on a full stomach, and had someone with me who knew I didn't want to drink. Also had a friends number to call if I was struggling.
Is there Archery you can attend during the day on weekends in lieu of evenings.

Over time it got easier. I was even surprised to see how many people actually didn't drink out. They were always there, I just always bee-lined for the heavy drinkers. There are parents, those who had to work or play sports the next day, designated drivers, and people who just wanted to improve on their health. And possibly a few sober alcoholics in there too.

Welcome to DS endohunt. Pop on over to the 'Discussions' tab and see if you can relate to any of the topics, and feel free to ask any questions. We're all at varying stages of sobriety and happy to share our experiences with you.

oh, i hear you

i align myself with the hard partiers. but my partying almost always went awry, and they merely had hangovers. The problem is this is where i feel comfortable, at ease, where i belong, is the wrong place for me to be. It appears i am always on the outside looking in. I can get screaming drunk and have a good time - the rest of my life falls apart.

am i making any sense?

i handle it like you i leave lol, i can be around drinkers if theres other stuff goin on but not around "freinds" who are all drinking i always drive myself incase i hafta leave and usually its when one of them starts saying "have one u can just quit again tomm" even though the obsession has been lifted from me im not willing to tempt it any more.

Over time, you become more comfortable with yourself and who you are. If the main reason for these events is drinking, then you may find that you don't want to be around it as much.

I agree with Coogee, regarding the fact that there are a number of people who don't drink at parties. I never noticed it until I stopped drinking, so with some groups you will not be alone.

Same here as most. After a while, others drinking doesn't faze me in the least. Hang in there, this will pass...
hugs,
Dennis

I decline invitations where there will be booze flowing. Too risky for me. I need to get some good, sober time under my belt. My friends totally understand and support me in this.

And in the past, when I wasn't drinking and would go to functions, I always made sure I had my own car so I could scoot out if it got too uncomfortable.