Hey, When I got sober , They talked about Becoming , through the Fellowship and Program of Recovery(step work) Rigorously Honest with myself- Which has "A day at a Time" become necessary.. At the beginning and until," Right Here Right Now"....
Thank God for,Clear cut- Directions....
Any Thoughts,
Billy

honesty, forgiveness, acceptance, tolerance, determination, and if there is a mental or emotional illness attached - these must be treated.

Peace

' they are not at fault they seem to be born that way' how can someone be born with dishonesty.. doesnt make sense to me, so i basically was born to be dishonest' is it from learnt behaviour or something, i have never understood that statement . just wonderin really.

I guess if a person cannot be honest no matter what is done, they probably will not get the program. I'm not sure it matters why they cannot get honest with themselves and others. The rest would not matter. I cannot make anyone do anything they do not want to do...

could be mental illness or a disorder, could be learned like in spoiled or entitled. The key word is SEEM to be born that way. The biggest obstacle I see daily is simple. If one can't be honest with themselves to accept responsibility for their actions/choices they will never make it work. They will be to busy blaming everyone else. They don't want accept responsibility because then they have to admit they were wrong and THEN enact positive changes. What I see a lot of is someone saying "I am an alcoholic and I am powerless over alcohol SO since I am powerless I guess I have to give in to the craving/obsession because it's inevitable any way. I have lost the power of choice so I guess I have to chose to drink.'

Think of maybe A Crack Addicts Baby, Or a Alcoholics Mothers baby... Being affected thru ones exposure too...While in the womb....Think of Anger being Transferred to you....before you Take your first breath... Or irregularities in your Genes...Causing Pre- disposed allergies to foods or Alcohol or whatever we may be allergic too...

Adj. 1. predisposed - made susceptible; "because of conditions in the mine, miners are predisposed to lung disease"
susceptible - (often followed by `of' or `to') yielding readily to or capable of; "susceptible to colds"; "susceptible of proof"
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While attending a women's step group....small group of about six of us. We were given an assignment to monitor our honesty. Write daily about what we found for a week. It was really an eye-opener.

Not only in what came out of my mouth but the thoughts I had or didn't have. For me conscious living is where I found my short-comings and this is gift to myself and others. It is so important for me to pause, before I speaking.........pause before and sometimes wait before making any decsion. (sp?) or taking any action.

common sense becomes uncommon sense.....LOL

For me the steps as followed out of the big book - along with some other stuff related to the principles of these steps has left a strong sense of empowerment....and ability and or confidence to do the next right thing.

Honesty and acceptance.....principles of the first step.

Who of us has had the ability to be completely honest the first day of sobriety? Imo...none. It is progress, baby steps, and takes some longer than others to obtain a sufficent level of honesty to be navigated thru the rest of the steps but it is the most important for progress.

Emotional and Mental disorders.....I believe I've had an amble dose of that too. I guess I'm a lucky one. If there is such a thing as luck.

I found that many of my short-comings have been re-directed in ways that were creative and conducive to positive outcomes. Action, yes but with detachment...if that makes any sense, but honesty was first.

just my experience

Ree