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Hey guys! 4th day Sober! Had a setback at first!

readytolive30
readytolive30

So I started with a 1 week goal of sobriety. (Baby steps) It's almost like in making that goal I kindof freaked myself out. I didnt take the good advice getting the alcohol out of my house. I ended up drinking more than I have ever drank in a 24 hour period. I started at 3pm and stopped at 2am. I was yelling and crying and down right awful to my husband. I said things that were just vile at 2am. I thought I had hit rock bottom before but NO....This was rock bottom. I am not that person. I am a kind and warm person. Not this..When I woke up I was ready to give him the biggest apology of my life. After the things I said I couldnt imagine what would happen. When I saw him, He looked at me, Held out his arms and held me for a long long time. We talked about me getting sober and I told him I need him to be hard on me and do this together. If I ask him to get me something he needs to say no. Well last night was day 3 I was having a really hard time. It was 6:00 in the evening..I was getting stressed and thought , " Oh, I can just have a little." "Not as much as I had  before." ( That is a common lie I tell myself.) I asked him to get something and he said, "No, Im not doing it." He came home.. I made dinner and went to bed sober. I have had night sweats and trouble sleeping but gosh waking up sober is such a gift. I changes my entire day. I hope I can continue this. I have a goal to get fit and healthy in time for my 10 year Anniversary next month. I want to be a new woman by then. That's what keeps me going. I have already picked out a dress I am going to buy if I hit my goal. I want to feel like a million bucks. I have also been working out the last couple of days. I am so sore! Change is happening though!! I jsut have to keep checking in here and reading all of your comments. I havent gotten a chance to reply to everyone but I really appreciate all of your support and comments! We are in this together!

octoberrust
octoberrust
Its awesome that you have goals set. I know that always helps me. Its great that you're husband is being supportive.

One thing that helps me the most is staying busy. My mind tends to wander into the dark places when I'm not occupied with other things.

Every second counts, Congrats on day 4!
Dragonfly1969
Dragonfly1969
Congratulations on that wonderful sober morning feeling! That is the time to wake up and pray for strength to stay sober for 24 hours! One day at a time-that dress will look beautiful on the sober wife your husband will see. Keep taking it one day at a time, exercise, read, and do something nice for yourself like a bubble bath, splurge on a new lipstick, or a pedicure once a week. Keeping a journal also helps a lot, and reading anything and everything about alcoholism, and stories other people's recovery helped me immensely in the past. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
MultiColorDreamer
MultiColorDreamer
Congrats!! I'm so excited for you! It's great that your husband is being so supportive. Keep it up! I'll be around, going through it myself, if you want to chat
1is2many
1is2many
There is a reason why we drink so hard... and that reason is still there when we stop drinking. Until I figured out that I needed to change and heal the mind and spirit then... I kept going back because the alcohol worked to take away my fears and anxieties. Just removing the booze is great but to be happy and sober is the real goal. I had to figure out other ways to deal with life, because life will give you sunshine and rainbows ... after a real proverbial downpour and I just gotta know that life will never be perfect but I can make the most of it.
1is2many
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
That’s great!! And getting fit and healthy too. That’s what kept me sober in the first few months. Walking every day and yoga/exercise got my brain to switch habits from bad to good. Drink water. Lots. After a while my mind started clearing and I started reading about how to live a better life. Everything from relationships, anxiety, addiction behaviors to buddism. That’s when I really began to get healthy. And realized that I never learned how to be happy on my own. Always seemed like I needed to be reaching for something outside me for satisfaction. And that’s the problem. I have spent this last year ptacticing being responsible for maintaining a healthy lifestyle so I can be a stronger person. The change in my mind is amazing. I didn’t know this feeling was available. Almost 50 and finally feel mature. Lol Do it for yourself. It’s nor selfish because everyone around you will benefit from your solidness. Do it so your light shines. Love everyone and tell the truth.
LIONESS22
LIONESS22
You are making me tear up. I admire your strength and your perseverance to change your lifestyle. I've read a few of your other posts, and you are a rockstar for committing to becoming sober. You have an amazing support system in your husband and you are very lucky. Yes, you'll have ups and downs but I think with him by your side you can't lose and things can only go up. Keep on keeping up, girl. You CAN and YOU will do this. Congrats on your 4th day sober, that's great news
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