
Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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I am 31 years old. My Mother has been an alcoholic my whole life. A little over a year ago she went to rehab and changed her life. She just called me (at work) to tell me that she drank yesterday. I couldn't even think straight, I feel like my heart has been ripped out. I told her that my heart was broken and that I couldn't talk to her right now (I am at work after all). I told her goodbye and then hung up the phone. She called me back but I didn't answer. Did I do the wrong thing? I feel like I should have told her that everything was going to be OK, just start over. I don't know what to do, I just didn't expect this to ever happen. I feel like Ishould have prepared myself for this but then I wouldn't have been able to put 100% of my faith in her that she could do it. I am going to call her after work, what should I say? What should I do? She has attempted suicide twice in my life, did I just put her over the edge? I am so scared.
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Good luck to you. And God Bless.
I called her 3 times yesterday to talk and she wouldn't answer the phone so I am gong to let it be. I know how hard it was for her to call me and admit that, she just chose the wrong time to do it. All of you are right and I REFUSE to enable her anymore. When I do talk to her I will show support but I will also reinforce the boundaries we set up at the beginning. She knows that if she is going to be drinking that she is not allowed around my daughter or in my home. That may seem harsh but my Mom isn't a weekend drinker. She is trashed from the moment she wakes up until she passes out at night.
My Aunt said that she is back on track, which I hope she is. But I can't act as if nothing happened. Thank you for all of your replies. Oh and I have been attending Alanon for many many years. So I know the ins and outs, but my heart cannot be "put" under control as easily as my mind can! I react, then I think. I have tried to change that about myself and now I just accepted the fact that it is just one of those personality traits that will never go away completely! Oh well, we can't be perfect.