
Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

Tray34
I am joining today because I think my husband may have a serious problem.He lies to me about working late when he is actually out with friends drinking.The last time this happened (about 3 weeks ago) he promised he would never do it again.He did it last night.I am thinking he is working late,because thats what he told me,and he came home at 11:30 drunk out of his mind.He admitted then he had a problem.Now that he is sober he says he does not have a problem.To make this situation 100 times worse I am 6 months pregnant.I cant take the stress of dealing with this.What do I do?
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Ok, so now it is time for an opinion(watch out)!
From the way it sounds, i think that it might be a pretty good idea for you to get yourself to an AlAnon meeting.
I believe that your husband is an alcoholic, and he has been putting you through hell.
the people that you meet their will have either been, or ARE where you are!
You can only work on yourself. You can't change him. But you can work on yourself, learn how to set boundaries, learn how to not accept unacceptable behaviour. And if nothing changes with your husband, you can make a decision. Just try to remember that you can't fix him. And you can't control him or his disease either. The only person you can change is yourself. With an active alcoholic, things will only get worse if he doesn't seek treatment. You dont deserve that. More than that, your baby doesnt deserve that.
Untreated alcoholism destroys the alcoholic and everything around them especially their family. Please take care of yourself.
I understand it's a viciuos cycle.
And you know, when he is promising you that he won't do it again, he probably means it. But the disease of alcoholism is very incidious. That why there will be broken promises, broken hearts. As long as he is an active alcoholic, nothing can stand between him and his drinking. And that's not because he is a bad person, but because he is a sick person.
Think about you and your baby. What do you want? Do you want a happy life with a partner that is going to respect you, love you, be there for you? If this is what you want, it will not happen with an active alcoholic. This disease is affecting his physically, mentally and spiritually. As long as he is active, his values are out the window.
And unfortunately you can't make him quit. He needs to hit his rock bottom, whenever that may be, in order to quit. The question is .. what will you do until that happens? Take care of yourself and your baby, or put up with abuse until he's ready to quit? (if he will ever quit)
You're in my prayers. Take care!