Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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Gr8ful 09/14/2015

When I reached that point in my life that I had to stop drinking I was willing to do anything to stop. Drinking had so beaten me that I would have done anything to stop drinking. I was so beaten that I did not have conditional sobriety.

I would have tried anything to stop drinking, if I made me getting sober conditional what I would or would not do meant that I was limited to the one thing that could have 'led' me to sobriety.

It is not a secret that I used AA to get sober but this waffling is not about AA it is about what lengths I was willing to go to, to get sobriety. I was walking with my sponsor early on and they asked me that question 'what lengths are you willing to go to'. When I replied I was willing to go to any lengths. At the time we were in a city and my sponsor said are you willing to get on your knees now and ask to have the obsession to be removed??

I was so desperate that I got on my knees in the middle of the crowd and did that, that is how desperate I was to find the solution. So my question is what length are you willing to go to get sober?? Or is you sobriety conditional and limit what might be your solution??

G8 waffling.

texicallie 09/14/2015

I was willing to go to any lengths. And if I was told to direct downtown traffic at high noon Saturday naked, with the guarantee that I would never have to drink again, never again disappoint and hurt those that loved me the most, never endanger my children, never jeopardize my relationships, never cause loved ones to worry about my well being, you bet your ass I would do it.

Lucky for me, all my sponsor asked me to do was work the steps.

okiyoe1 09/14/2015

For me the same lala land with a lot of self delusion coupled with anal izing MY PROgram which was parroting instead of experiencing real relief through action!! That got old real fast :(( My threshold for pain was quite low early on... Pain is inevitable BUTT suffering is optional...Now get busy:)))

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DohRa9lsx0Q

okiyoe1 09/14/2015

:)) My fav on Al Gores world wide Web Ha!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Y3Q7H2urto&list=PL9285D44ED7F7B18B

Impermanence 09/14/2015

Texicallie I actually had to do something like that when I was a shaman's apprentice. He used taboo breaking to bring me to other levels.

As for drinking I did what it took to get rid of the grasping for a drink. I tried several groups. None worked. I went to a dharma group to study Buddhism. That worked for my alcoholism. I didn't go to the dharma group to learn how to stop drinking. It happened.

citychick2011 09/14/2015

At first, no, my sobriety was conditional. Now, I've come to know the severity of my problem and lack of control. It's damn scary!

I like Billy's you tube. Waking up is irritating and painful. I have my sleeves rolled up and am formulating a plan for work. I'm paying attention to my feelings now and I know theower alcohol and the obsession holds. I feel like I'm ready now.

citychick2011 09/14/2015

The problem runs deep down To my core.n it's so much more than just drinking now.

ExJerseyGirl2 09/15/2015

I did what I needed and my sobriety has no conditions attached. My solution has never been limited or bounded by programs or what others have told me. It is about having a single-minded focus and commitment and also acting through on that.

Magpie2 09/15/2015

I agree with Jersey. Although there have been some mornings that if asked I might go out and direct traffic naked if that was what it took.

gr8ful2b 09/16/2015

I drank until I just couldn't drink anymore. That's where I experienced the gift if desperation. My sponsor asked me "are you willing to do a handstand and push a peanut down Main Street with your nose to be sober". I was that desperate to not have to feel the pain anymore.

I agree with TexiCallie. Not having to hurt the ones I claimed to love more than anything. The 12 Steps were not easy and painful at times but nothing like the alcoholic loneliness and shame, guilt and remorse I was used to when I woke every single day. And relief came eventually. Most importantly, I no longer had the obsession with alcohol.

Lastly, my kids loved the people in AA for helping me become the mother my kids deserved all along. I loved them for introducing me to a spiritual path towards a life worth living.

FairiIse 09/23/2015

I had to get to that point too, the scales had to tip heavier for the desire for freedom from drinking forever. That gave me the necessary equipment to be willing enough for whatever lay ahead and absolutely nothing was harder than my past experience of the misery of active alcoholism.

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