Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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mayday101 01/09/2009

Hi, i've just joined this group. I've been sober on and off for nearly 2 years and the problem is for the last couple of months its been mainly off but just cause I keep drinking on a Friday night (I haven't yet tonight) but I just want that reward at the end of the week and just to be able to completely relax and forget my troubles and slow down. i just don't know to get this any other way and its depressing me that i have no way of celebrating getting to the end of the week. I guess also part of me wonders if i can get away with just drinking on a Friday night? Although I know if I do this I feel exhauseted all day saturday and I think it really messing with my emotions, but why is that? Sorry might just be venting a bit but just trying to get by

deleted_user 01/09/2009

Are you an alcoholic? Can you stop on Friday nights when you are finished in the evening? Does it carry over to the next morning or next day?
I'm curious...

mayday101 01/09/2009

Right now, I have been drinking on Fridays till i pass out then I feel like shit most of Saturday and its quite easy not to drink then and I seem to be getting through the rest of the week without drinking because I know i will screw my life up if I drink on a day when I have to go to work, I don't know how sustainable this is though, i used to drink most every day but not in the mornings

deleted_user 01/09/2009

Honestly, I've never met anyone with this kind of drinking cycle. For me it was every day and night. But I never drank to pass out. I just maintained. Surely there will be someone that can help us with this one. Really interesting. My question at this point is, if you feel like shit the next day...why do that?

deleted_user 01/09/2009

If you work Monday through Friday, try not to ruin one of your 2 days off by being hungover and miserable, you'll lose a day. I did that and ended up having a 1 day weekend which was tiring. Try to get through 1 Friday night sober and you will LOVE it and enjoy your weekend so much more.

deleted_user 01/09/2009

Stop the Friday drinking for awhile to break the cycle. I don't know if you're an alcoholic or not- my best guess is "no"... more of a weekend binge drinker.

YOu're at an age where you have to get a handle on that stuff or it can get much worse for you.

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mayday101 01/09/2009

Yes I agree if I don't drink my weekend will be much better and more than that I seem to have some kind of weird emotional hangover that lasts about 3 days when I drink I can feel really anxious and depressed but on the other hand I don't want to label myself an alcoholic if I'm not one i do feel that by not drinking I'm making my life much harder in a lot of ways cause I can't socialise the way I use to be able to and I don't enjoy socializing any more, but i also know that I'm scared to go out and drink cause I know i'll drink way to much and do something stupid/dangerous so when I do drink i do it at home on my own. Sometimes I do wonder though if saying i am an alcoholic is my way of taking responsibilty for things that wern't my fault...

m8bear 01/09/2009

Ok, so if you said you were going to have a couple of drinks, say a bottle of wine, what would happen when you had drunk that?

mayday101 01/09/2009

I know I can't control my drinking once I've started I just drink till i pass out or till I need to sleep (more or less the same thing) normally i end up drinking a bottle of wine start on the cider and then pass out

m8bear 01/09/2009

Hmmmmn.....well that is not 'normal' drinking behaviour.

Being alcoholic is not about how many times a week you drink, it is about what happens to you when you drink.

I notice that you are 29...my drinking was like yours at that age, always to excess. It is not normal drinking behave to blackout. It is not normal drinking to not be able to stop.

Some would say the chances are that you are alcoholic but that is for you to decide.

deleted_user 01/09/2009

Find something else you enjoy doing that precludes drinking for reasons of safety or clarity of thought - paintball, rock climbing. Let that be your friday celebration.

If getting stupid and passing out is your concept of a reward, a very rough road lies in front of you.

deleted_user 01/09/2009

I know a guy who drank every day except Sunday.He was worried about whether he was an alcoholic or not.He decided he wanted to stop,and found out that it was harder to stop than he thought it would be.He started to attend AA meetings.His first one was on a Monday night.He hadn't drank on the Sunday before.After the meeting,I told him it was very simple to get started.Just do on Monday what you did on Sunday.He did.He asked me after Tuesday's meeting what to do again.I said just do on Tuesday what you did on Monday.He's been doing it one day at a time since,and will have one year without a drink in about a week.Do on Friday what you did on Thursday........one day at a time.See how hard it is to do without,then you'll know where you stand.

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