Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
What can I say....i am on pins :(
I have a suggestion or 2 for you.
Look back at your posts where you were truly "struggling" - when you were drinking. Right now it seems most of your problem is the peer pressure you feel. Than don't go....make an excuse not to go tonight.
Or go..but make sure you have an excuse to leave when you are feeling that pressure. I personally don't think you are stable enough to go at all right now...get home with a good book...say you have to take a friend to an appointment or something.
If you go into a place like this and you are vulnerable I feel like you are setting yourself up. You will be able to go again one day..but not when you are this new at being sober.
There is no reason for you to be on pins....or if it is too hard for you to say you can't go...than say you will meet people there and DONT GO...by the time Monday comes....no one will care...and you can say you got a call on the way that needed your attention more.
DONT GO....PINS REMOVED
There is a saying that goes: If nothing changes, nothing changes so this may be a good time for you to start making some of those changes.
If you are on pins because of peer pressure to do something as Missy2 suggests then you have a great opportunity to turn a problem into something positive. I will tell you about an experience that I had shortly after I stopped drinking and maybe you can do the same thing. There was a family social occasion of the type that has a must attend tag and no excuses would be accepted for not being there. Although most of the people attending would drink very little I knew that there would be plenty of alcohol available and it was free as well. I was stressed out about this as I knew that I would be likely to drink if I went there and that I would offend some close relatives if I did not go. I shared about it at an AA meeting (another benefit of going to AA) and a man spoke to me after the meeting. He reminded me that I was not long enough sober to be around temptation. He did not tell me what to do but he said that if he was in my place he would not go.
I passed the party venue a few evenings later as people were gathering for the event and I drove thirty miles to an AA meeting. Some people were indeed offended because I did not turn up but the party did not stop just because I was not there. My absence may have made a few people unhappy but for me it was literally a life or death situation. To put it simply, if I drank that night I could be dead by now because I probably would not have gone back to AA.
That is my story sugar and like the man at the meeting, I cannot tell you what to do. Maybe you can start to make changes for the better in your life because, if nothing changes, nothing changes.