Good question, one day at a time.our emotinal healing takes place. and we will grow in sobriety .as we become less self absorbed.Talk to another sober alcoholic, post on DS.This too will pass.I remember the feelings, and the fog in my head when I first got sober. God willing I never have to feel like that again

For many of us we need to relearn how to handle emotions. For me, I should not fear my ultimate horror-that I will die or go insane from my feelings. I could, But odds are they are just going to be uncomfortable. This is a good starting point, just ride through and know that as uncomfortable as you feel, you are ok and it will get better soon.

I tell you, no one feels good all the time, and if they do they are most likely high or manic! We need to relearn how to handle life, good, bad and the boring.

for the real alcoholics the bb described it wasnt till living the steps and exp the change of perception that those steps bring that thise things that were afflicited with begins to change thats my exp. beware of the wolves in sheeps clothing on this board they act like they are in aa but when they go on they bash the aa program.

for me i write as much of it as i can, and sometimes i just have to stay still and do nothing, most anger is really fear and pain that is why they come up all at once. just remember they will pass as if we stay sober it doesnt get worse, well most of the time

When I first got sober I found all feelings and emotions almost unbearable. Even small things felt huge and were very painful. I didnt have any experience of just having them without trying to change them.

The things that have helped me are:

12 step program and AA which gave me tools to cope with things and to start to understand when to accept things, when to take action, and how to start to understand myself and what caused my feelings.

Time and experience - the more I have had emotions and coped, the more belief i have that i can cope with things and that they always pass.

Talking - I used to keep myself and my feelings hidden but I have found that it really helps to talk to someone who knows me and who I trust

Remembering that my feelings will not kill me but what I do about them might - someone told me this when I first got sober and it helps me to think about it sometimes.

Writing - sometimes helps to take the power out of things.

Therapy - I have needed a lot of therapy to deal with all the things that I didnt deal with and tried to run away from when i was drinking.

Things do get better if we try to deal with feelings constructively instead of trying to get rid of them, stop them or run away from them.