I agree. I am ok with people drinking around me but really drunk people I can no longer be around. I think it reinforces why I gave up.

OMG, totally! Especially when it's someone close to you... Annnnnoooying!!! Thirsty

Youre preaching to the choir, I use to own and run a saloon. Im social; I love drunks, especially drunk women, thats the main reason I hung out at saloons.

The odds are the abstinent newcomer will be crazier than a drunk, due to lack of coping skills with out their medicine. They can be especially crazy if they are not examining the reasons they drank alcoholically. Thats why Id take a drunk over an abstinent newcomer any day. Ive been a observing this for many years and not just at AA meetings.

There are a lot of mildly annoying people that arent assholes, due to the fact that not all alcoholics have the same personality, e.g. quiet passive types. Also, there are passive aggressive types, which with my experience can be the worse type. Id rather have an in your face asshole type any day, because you know where theyre coming from.

The bottom line is very simple and why cookie cutting doesnt work. Alcohol lowers inhibitions and can only influence behavior that exists or behavior that one entertains where they have the potential to act out. Alcohol cannot make someone act out what they are morally and ethically incapable of doing sober.

Isn't it amazing how stupid we used to look?

I don't enjoy being around drunk people. What makes it even more painful is being around someone who is laughing too loud, or slurs their speech, or walks into tables, and knowing that is how I used to act.

Ouch.

Yep! Nothing attractive about someone who has had too much to drink, especially if you are the sober one! I am sure I was not an attractive drunk because I saw it in my son's eyes at Christmas.

Yep its hard to be around for sure.
I also feel a huge debt of gratitude when I see someone acting like I used to.

I share your opinion." Drunks still piss me off." and I know through the later part of my alcoholism I was a pisser offer I was like what I read on a tee-shirt someone one was waring once "Instant arsehole just add alcohol."

What do they say." You can tell an alcoholic but you can't tell them much." I hope they meant the practicing ones.lol. God every word that come out of my mouth never had more than four letters in it.

I was like a lion when i was drinking and a sheep when I wasn't alcohol change everything about me. Though if anyone came to me for help these days I would go to any lengths to help.

One good thing these days I can chose to say something or go somewhere else I don't need to go straight in and bash someone and in return get bash for doing it.

It is so good these days to wake up without any guilt or remorse over something I may have done or said when like those drunks.Knowing I haven't phoned someone or em barest someone who may have known me including family or friends.

I love being sober.

God Bless...

Lionel

i love the title of this thread

my husband doesn't get drunk, but he does drink, and when he does I can not stand the smell of him and even one drank i can see a change and i don't like it. I once heard that sometimes when a person with a drinking problem gets clean the marriage ends.

I don't mind ppl drinking around me but when they are drunk I am moving on to somewheres else. I just don't go to places where drunks go. Lov my sobriety so much I don't miss that crap.

Good to know I'm not alone and I have no problem with someone having a few drinks in a safe situation and my wife , who might have 1 or 2 drinks twice a month , keeps some in the house for her , my son, daughter etc when they visit. None of that bothers me but I guess last night I went to a rstraunt ( my turf?? that turned into a bar. Its like they invaded my space

Don, just a thought if the same thing happened today would you react the same way? Maybe, maybe not,.. I bet this is not the first time you encountered this My point being could it have been you being off balance instead of the situation?.

Well no doubt we lost an adult child to addiction 6 weeks ago and this was a bad week, so you're probably right

Even when I was drinking, I got to where I couldn't stand going to bars I think you are perfectly right when you say "Alcohol can take mildly annoying people and make them first class assholes." Because no way did these people act like that at work or with their families, or they wouldn't have either. They don't need to "loosen up" when they obviously already have a screw loose!

However, I think sometimes you can take the drink away from the arsehole, but you can't take the arsehole away from the drink! The last time I went out after an AA meeting, we went to a Mexican restaurant. There was a crowd of us being loud and lewd, complaining about the music, acting like they were the most hilarious people in the world, being rude to the waitress. I was embarrassed. I looked around and saw the other people quietly hunched down over their food, and thought hey, they must think this is a table full of drunks! LOL