Don't give in! Good for you to get on the computer. I had to skip a party last weekend because i didn't want to be offered drinks over and over and honestly didn't want to explain that i am now sober

People, places and things can trigger us. So you did the right thing going into the house and reaching out on the web to this support group. I am very proud of you. Also if you had a few phone numbers to call and speak to someone on the phone live in the moment it helps greatly. I find the verbal sos to be most helpful. (((hugs))) hang in there, blessings

Someone laughing at me and saying "ya, right" would just compel me all the more to stick to my intentions of not drinking and giving them the mental middle finger.
Ignore them and move on to the good life:)

Good job coming in the house and getting online with people who can support you. Isn't it interesting the way some people want to drag you down? In reality, having a drink is easiest thing in the world ( after all, what talant does it take to swallow liquid?). But just remember, with sobriety you can actually do stuff and pursue the things in life that really interest you. That's a lot better than passing out, and being hung-over the following day.

Stand Strong!

It's your life, live it
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Time to change the people you hang out with

I agree that you need to change your friends - mine drink and I don't for many reasons. No one has ever said a word to me about not drinking. I saw my father become so grateful and happy when he stopped drinking and attended AA meetings. His life and our family's lives changed so much for the better. You are amazing - hope you remain strong.

YESSSS, way to go. Don't let people drag you down. Stick with people who are going to lift you up. Hangovers are no fun and you don't have to deal with it because you stuck to your guns. Keep it up!

Good for you for leaving! Don't let them bother you and don't let them drag you down with them! Keep in mind that you are the only sane person in the group and we are proud of you! Stay strong!

God Bless!

Good job! Why do you have people at your house who are insensitive and obnoxious?

BTW... instead of telling yourself and others that you are trying to not drink, say that you do not drink or are not drinking.

@ExJG,


My sober husband used to say "if you're trying, you're lying." You either drink or you don't. No "trying" to stop drinking.

@smahon02,

In "trying" to stop, you give yourself a tacit permission to fail. Change your thinking to "I don't drink" and I think you will find a move positive outcome.

They are my husband's friends, over here almost every night.

My husband still drinks, and we are around people who drink. I know he has my back when i say no thank you.

Some people I had to cut down the time we spent together while others I had to stop spending time with altogether . Finding more supportive friends may be helpful for you to reach your goal of sobriety. Hope you got out of that situation.

Good job! Is there any way you can prohibit drunk jerks from partying at your place? How awful!