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So I went 78 days without a drink and within this time I started coming to terms with the fact that I am an alcoholic and should never drink again - if I want to be happy.
I have a job as Cabin Crew at the moment which was the only thing that stopped me drinking for so long, I went on my first night stop on Sunday - Wednesday so I was with the same crew everynight.
On Sunbday night, we went to this restaurant and they all had a drink and just for one night I didnt want to be the only one not drinking, I didnt want to be the new person who doesnt drink because I cant control it. At the same time, I didnt even want a drink as I was doing so well!!!
When the waiter asked me what I wanted the words cam out before I even realised I said them "I'll have a glass of red wine" - I ended up sneaking out 2 minutes after dinner and when everyone went to their hotel rooms to buy a bottle of vodka and cigarettes.
I honestly dont know how Im going to deal with night stops in the future as I know this is my weakest point, I'll be going out to dinner with people Ive never met before (who dont know Im an alcoholic) and I could always just drink and noone would know then.
Im going to stop ddrinking and smoking again on Sunday 1st March. Would really love any help, support or advice if anyone has some for me?
Best wishes,
Joe
I have a job as Cabin Crew at the moment which was the only thing that stopped me drinking for so long, I went on my first night stop on Sunday - Wednesday so I was with the same crew everynight.
On Sunbday night, we went to this restaurant and they all had a drink and just for one night I didnt want to be the only one not drinking, I didnt want to be the new person who doesnt drink because I cant control it. At the same time, I didnt even want a drink as I was doing so well!!!
When the waiter asked me what I wanted the words cam out before I even realised I said them "I'll have a glass of red wine" - I ended up sneaking out 2 minutes after dinner and when everyone went to their hotel rooms to buy a bottle of vodka and cigarettes.
I honestly dont know how Im going to deal with night stops in the future as I know this is my weakest point, I'll be going out to dinner with people Ive never met before (who dont know Im an alcoholic) and I could always just drink and noone would know then.
Im going to stop ddrinking and smoking again on Sunday 1st March. Would really love any help, support or advice if anyone has some for me?
Best wishes,
Joe
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
I'm not criticising you at all, God knows I have had similar thinking during my drinking days but that's just it - come hell, sunshine or high water I would find some crazy way to justify my drinking.
That's the worst thing about alcoholism, the strange mental twist that finds us picking up another drink even when we are on the wagon.
There is so much more to this than a decision, in drinking I was displaying an inability to deal with an inner turmoil. I needed a programme of recovery to deal with the big picture.
I have friends in AA who are cabin crew and I have heard their stories but alcohol is everywhere and what is required is a neutrality around it and for any desire to drink to be removed. That is entirely possible but requires hard work in the early days.
I wish you well.
I bet no one would notice if you didn't drink. And if they did....you just say something like I'm on a medication that interacts poorly with alcohol.
Or I'm allergic to alcohol (my throat swells, I get hives) and no one here wants to deal with that! And laugh it off.
You can do it! No one will think less of you and remember none of those people will be with you in your darkest moments if you do drink again in that situation and end up drinking and losing everything you have.
Congratulations on the 78 days...just pick yourself up....brush off and don't beat yourself up. Many people would have caved like you did in that situation. You just need more practice lying. We lie a lot when we drink....so do it for your sobriety :)
You could just say you quit drinking to try to lose weight, get in shape, or you could make up some random health issue that wouldn't let you drink. I'm not a big fan of lying because then you have to keep track of it, but when it comes to colleagues, it's not always a good idea to be an open book.
Billy
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsIzj7235i0
It is important to live in today rather than the past or future but just this once I am going to look into my crystal ball and tell you what I see ahead.
I can see a day when you can stop off at any city in the world and have a good time without drinking or even thinking about drinking. You can go to restaurants and other such places and people will look up to you and respect you as a person who does not drink. A few will mock you and some of those people will do so because they have their own problem with alcohol. Rather than be offended or angry, you may have a chance to help some of those problem drinkers if they want help. Before you get to that happy place you will need to do some work on your thinking and you will probably need help with that.
If I was in your place I would see this not as a problem but as a great opportunity. I would get a copy of the AA International Directory or look up Alcoholics Anonymous Links Page and find out where AA meetings are held in different cities.
I also had the experience that people didn't give a darn whether I'm drinking or not.
I remember saying I was gonna quit "tomorrow". Tomorrow didn't come for a very long time. I wish that I had known then what a high sobriety was. I hope you get to that place of neutrality. It is possible but like PJ said, it takes lots of work to get there.
Since compulsion was the driving force behind my own drinking, it made sense to keep that in mind how destructive my actions can be.
There are a lot of ways to put others at ease even though we aren't drinking when they are. I've said things like "doctors orders" or "it doesn't agree with me" or "I don't drink". All worked just fine.
Believe me when I say, as an alcoholic, we can find ANY excuse to drink. If you really want sobriety, then plan ahead for these events and have your answers ready before the situation presents itself.
I wish you peace.
Peg
Same with the words "popping" out of your mouth. You could have said, "never mind that... I'll have an iced tea."
I think it's time to realize that you can't drink ever.