Hey,
I've wondered much about co-dependency, trying to figure it out what it really is. I have decided it is always trying to FIX someone else. Truth is, no one can FIX someone else - they must do it themselves.

Co-dependents live to FIX someone else, much like alcoholics live to drink, and cannot be satisfied any other way.

I'll post again when I come up with a better way to explain it.

http://www.coda-uk.org/index.php?page=patterns-characteristics-of-co-dependency

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Co dependency is a made up disease used to indoctrinate new members into a religious cult called ALANON.

I agree with Deogee about trying to fix someone but I think there are other things also. There are many reasons for co-dependency. Others might be out of love or seeing through the dependency at what an alcoholic or addict could be like if they ever decided to come clean. My wife stuck with me for 25 years when I would have left myself if it were possible. In the last 5 or 6 months I have come a long way towards being the man she said she always knew I could be. I thank God she didn't give up and walk away.

To me, codependency is when I'm taking your temperature to see if I'm ok.

gr82fulb,
I really like that. Kind of explains a lot. "Taking your temperature to see if I'm okay."