The only thing that saves my ass from that state of mind is the serenity prayer. (HUG)

Hi Andrew i can relate to you.I lived with a young girl underneath me for years, total nightmare.I spoke to her nicley to begin with.I have to be up at 6am most mornings.I ended up going down there and nearly hitting her, if it was not for my partner i would hate to think what would have happend.

I went through all the right channels like your self, but all to no avail.This girl eneded up moving thank god, i did pray for that, so dont know if it worked.

Its all ways easy for people to say this that and the other when they dont live there, but i wouldnt wish noisey neighbours on any one.

Wish i could offer a solution, just wanted to say i can truly relate.

Good Luck.

Andrew , i totally know nightmare of neighbours. One says continually you are a drunk. i say was. Neighbour hits her daughter continually, i have reported it. Daughter escapes to my spare room. gOSH SHOULD NOTBE ON PUTER . HOW ON EARTH TO ESCAPE TO SIMLE LIFE. trying need to put puter n phone down. need help.

Andrew, I have been on both sides. While drinking I would wake up to furniture being moved and broken. The shower curtain being ripped from its hooks. Fun! Lots of falling in the middle of the night. My neighbors downstairs were so polite about it. Thank God!

They have since moved and were replaced with a couple who likes to scream at each other at 2 or 3 in the morning. I get up, get on the the computer for a little bit until they calm down and I go back to bed.

Oh... and I live on a very busy turnpike. Earplugs helped until I got used to the noise of traffic.

~Chris

Hello Andrew.
Keep praying .

I was the one making the the noise and if my neighbour would have approach me at the wrong time .Well I had a samurai sword and gun and may have used them.

The police where frequent visitors to our home but that wasn't a deterrent it only escalated things .

But my neighbours kept praying and it worked we have had peace
for the past 20 years. i didn't realise how many people I affected at the time because my eldest daughter came home from high school one afternoon and said the boy at the bottom of the road ask what was wrong things were so quite at our end of the street these days .

I know this doesn't help your situation at this moment but things will change. I will also pray .

Resentments are like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Your going through all the stress and anxiety and the neighbour probably doesn't know or care.

I will pray things change. And am sorry I don't have any quick fix ideas that can help.

God Bless...

Lionel

Yep, had neighbors that party till dawn. Used Prayer. And earplugs. They're gone now...

for me anger is a process , i have to work through it.

Prayer of course, and if you are provided options, i.e. property management and police, then you need to utilize your options - if not then you are choosing not to take action in this situation and you must just deal with it.

Peace!

The noise and his vicious dog I can deal with ... it the almost constant smell of pot smoke --- he must be smoking it by the pound -- that's just putting me in a funky head space.

As a good officer of the NYPD said to me the other day "This has been going on for years and the landlord hasn't done anything?"

There is a bit of progress, I can have a civil discussion with police and not feel fear.

like a friend told u, praying for that person is the right step to take, but can certainly understand where this situation can become out of hand.,,,,truly once gets fed up, anxious, angry and the whole nine yards,i have never had that happen to me so unfortunately have to advide...but truly emphathizes with your situation. goood luck with that
prayers

difficult neighbors? hmmmm...... discover his favorite music...........play it loud when you have a bbq. then ignore him when he tells you to turn it up LOL

I turn on my a/c and use ear plugs.. at least the noise is muffled. I'm dealing with abusive really old ladies.. God they can be nasty. One told me I couldn't walk my dog through HER lobby (I live in an apt. building) because it upset her and I KNEW damn well it did so I walked there on purpose. I have a nice little Yorkie, mind my own business and try to 'practice the principles in all my affairs'. However being yelled at in front of a bunch of people for something so silly really p'd me off. She even shook her can at me. I told her she couldn't tell me where to walk my dog and put in a letter of complaint to management. It upset me terriby and I cried a lot over it because I didn't understand why she didn't like me.. I was only ever nice to her and the other old betties. I've come to the conclusion it's HER problem, not mine. Obviously she's got some 'issues'. Now I avoid them like the plague but I still walk my dog through the lobby when I want to.

JA - I like what you said about having a civil conversation with the officer with out fear - that's great news - it is a good feeling isn't it.

Peace!

Use the recovery tools you have displayed and then if that fails ~~~proceed to strangle their ass!! LMAO.
In your case I would have to say we were not made to be wimps. With your AA attitude in place you approach the problem and let him know (with a crazy look) things are gonna get ugly if the problem is not rectified.
This statement leaves the problem wide open for interpretation.
If things don't get better, you will have to involve the police. That's how things get ugly.
Then get ready to be known as a snitch.
That will be a whole new thread, a whole new set of 12 step solutions.
Long story short; I have to display courage and stand up for what's right. I will not put in ear-plugs or leave my place.
I do have a certain amount of control for things that influence my serenity.
Uhh don't get shot or arrested,, sorry but LMAO.