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Day 4 emotional rollercoaster

irishfairy
irishfairy

had a rough night couldn’t sleep , I though some coffee and get cracking on my studies well my ex had other plans , he kept texting saying really mean things to me and now wants the girls for Xmas . My girls are everything so I have cried and cried , I know my ex is a bully and he gaslights me, but I have to be strong I can’t let him destroy what I’m working on with all his negative words . It’s day 4 and I will not drink today . Sorry to be posting so much but I feel once I’m telling you I’m accountable for my actions today to not drink . Thanks everyone 

stepone
stepone
Hi IrishFairy. Great job on 4 days. I remember the mental gymnastics and torture of those first several days. Take it from me, a lot of that anguish can be alleviated by simply sitting in a room with other alcoholics in recovery. I'm not telling you to make a lifetime commitment, but please consider AA to get through the witching days. You don't have to say a word. Just sitting there might give you some peace and some relief. Please consider it.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
It will all work out as long as you stay sober. That is all you have to focus on right now. Don't worry about the kids, don't worry about the ex. That one thought was what kept me sober in the beginning. When I focused on myself and my sobriety and stayed sober one day at a time, I was surprised at how the rest of my life began to come together. It will for you if you just let it go and stay sober.

God Bless
Koyu
Koyu
Congratulations on 4 days of sobriety. Do you have someone who you can check in with daily. I know this is not A.A. but I remember for the first three years, I checked in with someone everyday to tell them I am sober. It helped a lot.
Or you can check in daily in this group just to stay that you did not drink.
Just a thought.
Hugs
irishfairy
irishfairy
Thanks guys , no I have no one to check in with , so I’m posting here every day :)))
nomore4me
nomore4me
Hi, I think you should feel very proud of yourself and empowered!! Well done and keep going.
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
Keep posting. I think it’s great. We need more sober, well adjusted people in this world. And hear bobinmaine. All the whirlwind going on around you will, most likely, continue in some form or another. (except the ex, he has to learn some self control). Let the storm rage around you but not through you. You have made a decision for yourself that is going to change your life. One of the perks you will find is that maintaining an inner calm is easier sober. At least that’s been my experience. It has grounded me as every day my practice of living a better life strengthens my soul. I wish the same for you
1is2many
1is2many
Just get to the pillow sober. He wants you to drink and self destruct. Decide you are better and make a better you
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jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
Post here several times a day if it will keep you from picking up a drink.

That’s the most important thing.
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