I hear ya Olive. My Dad died to booze when I was 14 - around the same time I began my saga of blackout drinking until I was 32. A few years sober, I was seeing a psychiatrist who suggested I write a letter to my Dad and read it at his grave. I was an explosively crying mess but it was a VER GOOD THING to do. I hope it was as beneficial to you. And yes, the ability to do that came from me being sober. More power to you.

I went through quite a few emotions when I wrote my Mother. Got pretty mad at her as well as telling her how much I missed her. The impact of that letter and reading it out wasn't apparent straight away. I can see now how it was another piece of my journey that helped untie knots that were holding me back. HTL I know this would have been emotional for you today. It took courage and faith, and that's what is needed to keep moving forward. :)

I have been thinking of doing this for a while now, and here it is in front of me. A sign that it is time to take action, I have only realized of late that I still have issues over my mum and her passing. I am off on my travels AGAIN but her date of passing is Dec 10th so I will make that a goal I feel that I would like to do it with another person,

i am so very proud of you.

Tis a good thing. I was lucky enough to make amends to my dad before he died. Not so my mom, but I believe that she understands what I wrote...

Hugs,
Dennis
Dropping the rock is always a good thing.

I went to a cemetary (my brother and father were cremated) and did the same thing. However, i went to a few unattended graves and cleaned them up and left flowers and letters with photos of my daughter who they had never met. A another sober friend came with me and did the same thing for her mother. I'm glad I did it.

Gave me goosebumps. I'm proud of ya!!

xoxo
Chris

Aw! Anna.....I know that was very hard for you, congratulations on having the courage to do something so difficult! :) Smiles through tears here...smiles through tears....

Funny I should read this today as I too was thinking of my dad who I have not seen in over 20 years. He is still alive though, although where I do not know.

Consequences of sobriety bring new chapters.

Hope you are feeling ok HTL. Stay close to your HP x

Oh wow, HTL! CM's is right that it did take a lot of courage for you to do that. I'm sure that you are feeling all sorts of feelings around this. This was not an easy walk in the park, my friend. I hope that you have a safe outlet to allow the feelings to flow and go, as they come. I have found that saying "goodbye" zaps all of my energy so I hope that you are taking extra good care of yourself right now. Please be gentle. Do comforting activities. I'm here if you need anything. love ya xx