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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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DWV
DWV

This is my confession day. I have tried and failed.. Many times. I do not drink daily, or even think about alcohol all the time, but when I am alone, and start to feel lonely, I want to drown the loneliness, even if it only works for a little while.


I was unceremoniously dumped by my husband after a 30 year marriage, and I just cannot get over him, the loss, the apparent mishap that I am, the fact that he is happily married again, the fact that I am 54 years old, and nobody would want me at this age, and that I am too old to start over, and that all I have lived for was a farce.


For days or weeks I am able to suppress the sadness and humility, and then one song, one comment, takes me right back to the start, and I just want to cease to exist. The ups and downs exhaust me to the point where I just pray that I do not wake up tomorrow.


I saw a psychologist, and went through all the stupid phases of loss and grief, and just as I thought I was getting it together, I am right back at the bottom of the hole...

jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
You can turn it around and you're still young to find the life you truly want.

You don't need to have such despair. If you want to quit drinking, there are options to help.

Once you find sobriety, the other things can come to you naturally.

Glad you found this place.
EveryWomanJ2911
EveryWomanJ2911
Dear DWV~I am sorry that life has disappointed you at this place in time, but the addiction won't fix it for you. You are a worthwhile person with a lot of life left to live, and you can start living it right now. You can make good choices for yourself today that help you to have the life you want. And even though it seems that the alcohol helps you to escape so you don't have to think about the tough stuff, its actually holding you back from becoming the person you want to be and finding that special someone you want to share your life with going forward. Take some time and discover what you love in life again, what fulfills you, what inspires you and motivates you. Your life is not over dear one, but it is just beginning. There is a new chapter just waiting for you to write it by living life well. Will you take that first step out of hell, and begin to leave the addiction behind you? The addiction is not who you are friend, but its just a coping mechanism that doesn't work. Reframe and rework your heart and mind so you can move forward in a new way dear. You can do this! ~Prayers and Blessings to you Friend!
Peduncles
Peduncles
Hello DWV! First of all, I would like to say that age is just a number. It will all depend on you if you are going to act up old or live your life the way you want to live. It's not yet too late to decide and take back control of your life. There are many others like you, some are even at an older age, who just admitted to themselves that they want to start afresh. It's never really too late. I just hope that you set your mind into gaining a better way to live your life that would ease your sadness and loneliness. There are great programs specifically designed to attend the needs like yours. One is the Primetime track program of the BLVD Treatment Center which caters the needs for recovery of 35 years old and older individuals. I feel that it's a great program where you can build your own social support with the people who are also experiencing what you are experiencing in their later stages of life. Having a support system is one of the most helpful things in the recovery process. I know you've been going through a lot and you are feeling loss and you're afraid of the future. Having people around you would somehow ease the pain. Hoping all the best for you. Warm hugs!