Congrats on doing well in your new job, and the nice pay raise! Sounds like you’re feeling a lot of pressure from many different areas right with the new home, Christmas approaching, a new job and your husband’s health. You’re ahead of the game because you already know this. I take a big breath and pray or meditate when I’m overwhelmed. Maybe this will help. You’re doing soooo great, try to chill and be okay with where you are right now. You’re doing an amazing job! Happy Holidays!

Merry Christmas - just relax & breathe !

Thanks Kevin.

You are right. I do know what to do. I took a little nap and now everything is good.

Pause for a moment....wait for your fear to abate....and then ask your Higher Power for help.

Wishing you a Holiday Saeson filled with Light and Love!

After reading that I see you're tip toeing the equivalent line of the "zilla" zone, and it looks like you are endangering yourself into become a Just Recently Moved/Overly Ambitious but High Earning/Gotta have the perfect Christmas for my Family-zilla. You know, like they call those women who are getting married and make it the most important thing in the world to others, the "Bride-zillas."

Fortunately I have had the blessing of being around scores if not thousands of you, and I find you hilarious, and I am laughing with you, but also kind of at you, but I've always respected the dedication to try to be perfect, that's awesome.

Now I will admit moving, very stressful, new jobs, kind of stressful, and health problems for loved ones extremely stressful, but Christmas decorations, stressful? I am not questioning if they are but I am questioning the reasoning behind them being so. Christmas decorating should be a relaxing and care free time away from the seriousness of life.

I think your mind might be slightly incapable or not desirous of distinguishing when it needs to be in certain modes, and I do think, just from hearing what you are saying, you are probably the team captain of your family, one of the more dependable employees your boss has, your husband's best friend, and very astute when it comes to moves, so give yourself a break and write down how awesome your are with facts, so your mind cannot say with it's own opinion you aren't, and stress you out with it's own lies.

I am just going to say, all that you wrote that you are managing gave me admiration and respect for you, but I know how that stressed out mind works, it makes you believe you are something not worth respecting and admiring, and it's incorrect.

It's like today, I got up, and thought my house was a mess, despite me consciously making attempts to clean it daily. My mind was telling me it was dirty and not clean, but then I went to the store and got out of the house for a bit, and the first thought I had when I returned and saw the place was "wow, I really do keep this place pretty clean." LOL!

Merry Christmas!! I was lucky enough to have this week off so it's eased the holiday prep. I can only imagine having what's on your shoulders now and trying to be in the 'spirit'. Take care of yourself and I hope your partners health can be stabilized.

AndFredric..... whaaattt? OMG