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Taradactyl
Taradactyl
My mom so desperately wants a relationship and I just can't get myself there. It breaks my heart every time I see her. I never really bonded with my dad - I was devastated when he died. I am terrified it will be the same with my mom but I can't find the courage to change it. I keep everyone at arms length and all the while I wish I could just let my guard down. I just can't seem to bond with people, especially family.

Sorry about the serial posting. Just having shit float to the surface I guess being sober and around family for the holidays. I just needed to throw some stuff out there.
gjm
gjm
give it time, keep doing the right thing for yourself and defiantly keep an open mind about it. ya just maybe surprised.

its like that damn saying we hate or hated time takes time.
billwfriend
billwfriend
no prob with serial posting if it keeps you from drinking always take the time to write here....hugs billwfriend
Taradactyl
Taradactyl
I went to a mtg - just got back. I chose to share about this. Thanks G, everyone loved the "time takes time".

What I learned... Amends can be made. Forgiveness can happen. Bonds can be wanted. I can even begin letting go of resentments. But only time and willingness heals hurt. People talked about giving up on "toxic" family relationships and I nearly broke into tears because all I could think was dear God I hope my mom doesn't give up on me. I just need time. I am working on it.
gjm
gjm
Anna, if you do the work and stay sober you will learn if your mom forgives you that's a bonus..if she doesn't you did your part by cleaning your side of the street and you will in "time" find comfort in that. seen it many times.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been sober a lil' longer then you A, and this is hard work.
IMOnly I was wired (born) a scrooge like person, that only took hostages for their money.
Once again in working step 11 every 15 minutes it brings a sense of gratitude for people like my Mom. All that she has done for me, all that she really wants from me is my love.
I have went from wanting to choke my wife out in bed~~~~~
to just reaching around her neck and withdrawing before pressure is started. (JOKE, before somebody hyperventilates)
Anna, all this shit takes time, sit back, surrender your thinker and enjoy.
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