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Ashley8888
Ashley8888
I have had a really blah day! I got off work at noon and took a nap....have not wanted to get off the couch all day! I did call my sponsor and she had me call four women, none answered (almost thankful because im just so not in the mood)

Anyways, my question is, how do I get myself to snap out of this? I am not really having a pity party just do not want to be doing anything at all!
Is it ok to be lazy sometimes? Or is a whole day bad? Honestly, I used to have days like this A LOT when I was drink..."hangover days"....So, I do feel really guilty about being so unproductive....but they are not NEARLY as often as they were...

IDK, what do you all think or how do you get yourself to snap out of it and get motivated???
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashley8888,
I'm glad you asked ...
First ... get a pen & paper & make a short GRATITUDE LIST ...
just some small stuff like you have a job ...
your clean ... if you are ...
that your NOT craving a drink ...
anything POSITIVE.

Then as your mood gets better ... which it should ...
CALL THE WOMEN AGAIN & IF THEY ARE STILL NOT
HOME ... CALL 4 more.
Then call your sponsor & briefly let her know what you did.
Hope it helps ...
I'm looking forward to what the other's suggest.
Jack / j
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Ashley, I wouldn't say that you didn't do anything today....you went to work (kudos on that), called your sponsor and then took some direction and called 4 women. That to me is a productive day. I have had rigorously lazy days before that included far less that what you did today!

I know what you mean about feeling blah and unmotivated though.

Jim
stickywick
stickywick
I have blah days and have found a few things can help. exercise first and foremost for me. If I feel like crap; I almost always feel better after a run or something like that. Also smiling. Even when I feel like shite, if I paste a stupid smile on my face I feel better.
Calling people, especially talking about *their* problems takes me out of it too.
Good luck and GOOD sobriety:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had a day like this just this past weekend. If you do not have days like these I don't think you are human lol just like you mentioned though....the feeling is all too familiar with "hangover days". I do my best to get a laugh and a smile on my face when in this mood. It could simply be exercising, taking my dogs to the dog park, or call a friend. This past weekend I realized I was having a blah day and simply jumped in the pool! Laughed a a lot and my family ended up joining me. From blah to pure healthy fun in a matter of 3 minutes. Be creative!
-Matt
deleted_user
deleted_user
I really think it is good for us to have lazy days. I am trying to have one every Sunday now. We need to rest and recharge our batteries so we are ready to meet the challenges that come to us daily. Don't feel quilty for just being human.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As alcoholics we cannot afford to rest on our laurels. We're trying to develop new, sober, spiritual habits not falling back to our old habits.The good news is you're doing the footwork even if you don't want to.Another way to get out of yourself is working with others. Is there a womens detox close to where you live? We seem to get a whole new perspective on our sobriety when we work with those that have far less. Grateful people are happy people. Those that aren't.....aren't
billwfriend
billwfriend
gee my favorite (NOT) READ A BOOK

LOL

I do not do much reading for enjoyment except in chat rooms and online peoples stuff...books and I are not really friends....haha
m8bear
m8bear
For me, I love my restful days. When I was drinking I could never have them...now I give time to myself to just be.

I could never understand how others were so peaceful with 'normality'; now I get it.

Welcome to the normal world Ash.....it took you a while to get here so be grateful to your HP you did.

Peace to you lovely :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I may be in the minority here but I am a self proclaimed lazy person. :) I see nothing wrong with being lazy for a day or two. Sometimes your body and mind need a rest. Could also have something to do with your menstrual cycle as well.

I have days where I don't feel like talking and I think that's okay...you can't be "up" at all times every day, that's just in a fantasy world. Even the happiest people on earth have "blah" days and there's no reason to hide it or "pretend" that you're not feeling crappy. Just admit it. I do, when I'm not feeling up to par and if pressured, I'll simply state that I'm just in a shitty mood and please forgive me and stay tuned cause happy me will be back no time. :)

I think that's a common denominator in alcoholics, we feel we always have to be "up", but that is not natural....everyone has blah days, accept that your blah....eat some ice cream & watch a sappy girley movie and ignore the phone. As long as you don't grab a bottle of wine, you're okay and you're aloud to be "blah". Ride it out and know that yes, this too shall pass. :) Hang in there girley. It will be okay!
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