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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
For those of you who have followed my posts in the past, I just wanted to do an update.
First, let me say that I have gotten incredible strength and support by coming here. Thank you to everyone. I'm also trying to "pay it forward" by posting for others seeking advice and support.
Next an update on "moderation management." I have found that I can be sober for a day, or two days. I can also go out and have ONE drink and stop. Now my goal is to be sober for at least four days in the week, and allow myself a "relaxing" drink no more than three days per week.
I'm not there yet, but I am getting closer.
The bottom line is that I am IN CONTROL of alcohol, it's not IN CONTROL of me. That has been the change in my life since I've been coming here.
I offer this insight for anyone on a similar path. If abstinance is your path - more power to you. Everyone is unique.
First, let me say that I have gotten incredible strength and support by coming here. Thank you to everyone. I'm also trying to "pay it forward" by posting for others seeking advice and support.
Next an update on "moderation management." I have found that I can be sober for a day, or two days. I can also go out and have ONE drink and stop. Now my goal is to be sober for at least four days in the week, and allow myself a "relaxing" drink no more than three days per week.
I'm not there yet, but I am getting closer.
The bottom line is that I am IN CONTROL of alcohol, it's not IN CONTROL of me. That has been the change in my life since I've been coming here.
I offer this insight for anyone on a similar path. If abstinance is your path - more power to you. Everyone is unique.
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This site also helped me to get to my goal!
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Why? Because I'm always thinking about it, trying to figure out ways to control it, thinking I have it under control, and then boom! I realize I did not.
I've spent my life trying to control alcohol. Yes, I can do it sometimes - one or two drinks, years without alcohol, etc., but eventually it would always creep up on me and I would be starting all over again.
I'm still working on the moderation thing myself. But in my heart I know that if history repeats itself, it's not going to happen. It never has. I just keep hoping.
I never EVER just wanted one. I wanted oblivion.
I drank alcoholicly I am an alcoholic.
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I never seriously tried moderating my drinking. Now I am happy not drinking at all so it is not something I will ever need to try.
This would be a mental torment for me if I still wanted to drink.
I would like to add, alcohol is no longer appealing or tempting to me.
I view it as drinking Liquid Draino, which I would never consume.
At least I am completely over drinking first thing in the morning - as an "eye opener" if you will. That was stupid beyond belief - and yet I did it. And now I don't. I am not proud of that time in my life. And very few people know about it.
I can definitely see how "none" is easier than "some" for people.
Just my most recent thoughts.
I always related to the idea of the 'Illusion of control'...goalposts moved often and through necessity...
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Where if I don't have it all...it becomes less and less of a thought.