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Beating a dead horse

JustAndrew
JustAndrew
At one point, in the recovery process, did you decide that yor opinion was only that .. an opinion -- not a statement of truth.

At what point in your recovery did you realize standing on a soapbox and screaming at the top of your lungs was just daffy?

For me, it's a work in progress.

Some days I know that I am right, everyone else needs to hear it and I just can't sit still until I tell everyone just how right I am. It has not reflection on the idea in my head -- it's always a matter of attitude.

Other days I WANT to tell everyone my great idea, but I defer.

Then, some days, I just don't have to flog the expired equine.
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
Yes!!! Andrew ,for me that has happened many a time , but it all ended for the better. Delusion is mentioned in the Book as something to be watched for. Along with staying off my high horse. My sponsor Leonard used to say alot , dependence on ideas or another human- being can mean death for the Alcoholic . Trust in God and be for ever vigilant of your attachment to your take ( or position) on things, they may not be what your head so stubbornly thinks....
Nice post,
Billy
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm like Einstein, full of knowledge
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think for me, when there is something I really am sure about, and at peace with, I actually have no desire to preach to others. I say what I think to another, and be done with it. This, for anyone who knows me, is somewhat rare. I am always examining things and really, there are only a handful of things in my life, profound to me, that I do not question.

I bet you are like that too Andrew. Things that you are sure of and at peace in your heart with. With that, present them as your truth simply. People see that and are more attracted to it than being on a soapbox about it. THe latter drives others away actually.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My opinion is only relavent to myself. It is what I must believe to maintain my sobriety. However, when another is shoving their opinion down my throat and implying mine is full of shit, my viewpoint will be known. Especially when publicized viewpoint is an unsupported contortion of 75 year-old information, with manipulative undertones that leave other feeling "less than."

Kinda like, point...counter-point.
deleted_user
deleted_user
At one point, in the recovery process, did you decide that yor opinion was only that .. an opinion -- not a statement of truth.

My opinion is "My Truth" however my truth can change as it is never set in stone. That is open-mindedness. Everyone has their "Truth" and only the individual's experiences and open-minded approach to life has any bearing on it.

At what point in your recovery did you realize standing on a soapbox and screaming at the top of your lungs was just daffy?

When doing so actually hurt those I had intentions of helping.

As for being right. I just ask the ol' HP, "How important is it?"