EDIT: Apparently he also drank a lot last year. This confirms he is, in fact, an alcoholic. This is a much bigger crisis already than I first thought.

It sounds like you Love your brother and care about him very much. The most important thing you can do is be as supportive as you can for your brother which means no judging and no criticizing. He is the way he is and that is the way he is. He needs to feel accepted. If his drinking doesn't stop then encourage dad to talk to his doctor. He may need professional help. Hang in there buddy. It will all work out. God bless

sounds to me, there is more involved then just wine and gender dysphoria, he is at the age where a lot of boys are abused by older boys or men. could cause him to drink, and really cause him to hide in a closet to be safe. but for what ever the reason hes calling for help. hes not trying to hide anything if hes leaving glasses around for anyone to find. it surprises me and causes concern when your father allows this to go on, time to find out why. abuse usually comes from someone close to him who has access. this might not be abuse, sexually, but just plain neglect and unloving. either way is not good. and a form of abuse , so why is your mother allowing this?

I'm not sure if your father/parents are familiar with AA or counselors in your area, but getting your little brother in touch with someone to discuss everything that is going on would be a great starting point, I believe. It's so hard being a young teen, and drinking might be the only way he can think of to deal with thoughts that hurt or anger him. Talking about them is definitely the better solution, with someone who is not judgmental, and finding support would be a great start for him.

I really don't know how to respond A_literal_rock. My first question would be to ask how the hell your 12 year old brother is managing to sneak drink up to his bedroom without an adult noticing that the wine bottle is going down? Putting a lock on the wine cabinet won't be enough if he is developing a drink problem, he'll get the booze somehow...... that's what alcoholics do!

Rather than trying to put measures in place to prevent your brother drinking your parents alcohol, would it not serve better if you as a family (inclusive of your parents) put some effort into talking to your brother who is not only dealing with puberty, body changes, cracked voice and teenage hormones but also extremely confused about his sexuality!

Most children and teens with gender dysphoria also have multiple other psychosocial and psychological vulnerabilities for example experiencing distress, anxiety and uncertainty as to how they conform to social expectations and more importantly to their families expectations!!

Your post doesn't say anything about your brother having any support whether medical or family. Nor do you give any inclination as to whether his gender dysphoria is accepted by you and your family??? Your brother wants and needs to be accepted, to know that the person screaming inside him is accepted and more importantly that he is loved no matter what the future holds for him.

Yes, he is possibly becoming dependant on alcohol and this could be because it numbs the feelings and confusion he is desperately struggling with - it has become his "friend" when he most probably feels that he has no one that understands him,

You don't say what the age gap is between you both but if you are at an age where you can help your brother as a guardian then help him to understand himself and find him the right people to speak to.

The drinking is your brothers cry for help, step in now before his thoughts and confusion spiral out of control - I say that because I know someone who struggled just the same thing. She started to self harm and tried to cut her breasts off - it was only then did her parents offer any kind of support......

So as far as some comments have gone: the whole family has accepted who my brother is, but along with medications and coping mechanisms given to him by his therapist, he doesn’t seem to believe anything is going to help him. I have found some support groups for my brother, but for some reason, my dad hasn’t signed up for one. Despite that, I’m almost certain my brother isn’t being abused; during some very difficult times in the past, something of the kind did happen, and I knew. I should also note that our parents are divorced; my mom lives across the country. It’s because of that that my mom can’t help, whereas I can only do so much because I am only 15.

I can see how much you love your brother but it's really important to focus on yourself and take care of yourself. Where he is so young, many times these things will work themselves out and he is seeing a therapist so he is getting help and therapy, quite often, takes time to work so just hang in there and don't get wrapped up in any of your brother's drama, unless he is harming himself by using alcohol or some other drug. In that case then you need to tell your dad or another responsible adult. Try not to let him drag you down, is what I mean to say.

Those of us who use to drink were very good at blaming others and making them feel guilty so that we could keep drinking and not be bothered by them. It's a blame game.

Keep us posted.

God Bless

You are a very brave 15 year old who should be proud of yourself for trying to help your brother. Encourage your father to sign your brother to a support group sooner rather than later and in the meantime you need to be a kid yourself!
You are very articulate for a 15 year old so please forgive the direct responses - I’m sure, like me, most people thought you were much older than you are.
I hope that your father arranges more support for your little brother - you may consider it for yourself also as I’m sure this is affecting you. Xxx