Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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Zachary18 04/21/2014

Life can be very uncomfortable and seemingly unbearable at times without drinking, especially when we feel we need or want to stop. Perhaps, one useful question to ask is: Are we better able to manage those times in our lives that are seemingly unbearable and get to the other side with or without alcohol?

At times I suffer from unrealistic expectations about not drinking in that I think life is going to be a bowl of cherries because I don't drink. What not drinking allows me to do is gain a better perspective on what to do to get through the pain inherent in life and get to the other side. Sometimes the only answer is to let time pass and work its wonderful magic of healing. Often, good times and bad times come and go with or with out my cooperation...I choose not to drink because I don't want to cooperate in creating more bad times or a rough patch worse...Trying to appreciate the good times even if it is only for a brief moment in a day to the fullest, because I know it is real, not artificial.

DeeTOOL13 04/21/2014

Brilliant, thanks for sharing

AnnaB12 04/21/2014

Thanks for this!

Impermanence 04/21/2014

I had some many disasters while sober. When I first sobered up I wondered how normal people faced these disasters. There is light at the end of the tunnel. When I get there, I bath in the sun. Nothing is permanent. The days in the sun are also temporary. Don't grasp.

okiyoe1 04/21/2014

Tough call there Zach ary butt when in fear human being stop breathing normally ...so the mickey mouth club members told me to breath in deeply and exhale out fully ,,one pointed meditation(now pay attention)...Really:)) ...Now lets practice that little exercise, all you kiddies in internet land.hehe
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuMvkNDuOuQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6SFNW5F8K9Y

actively participating in our own life comes to mind zach... nice Post!!
Billy

okiyoe1 04/21/2014

Oh here ol school... Miss Lee:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUdFIPknB_Y

Zachary18 04/22/2014

I got some good advice once. When I was fearful, keep on smiling. With practice I get back there a bit sooner than I use to...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpiFrFig35o

rivalino 04/22/2014

Yes I can Identity with the sentiments of this post Zach Good to here
That others with a good few years can still have those unrealistic thoughts sometimes thought it was just me LOL

nickyj18022002 04/22/2014

One of the ways I went a bit wrong in my early recovery was in thinking that things being better not drinking meant that I would never feel bad and bad things would not happen. I soon learnt that wasn't the case and for a while I reacted badly thinking there was something wrong with sobriety if I didn't feel good.

I have since learnt that life happens, it doesn't stop because I am sober. And life is up and down. I experience exactly the same life experiences, feelings etc as non alcoholic people. I do it sober these days and so as you say it is real and that is amazing!

Impermanence 04/22/2014

It's all about grasping. It's good to enjoy the good life but don't hang onto it. It will not last forever. The pain is caused by grasping on to the good times.. I noticed in my cancer treatment. they gave me a Ileostomy bag. I let go of the old me. The new me shits in a bag. I was lucky. They fixed it. Now the new me uses a toilet. However I through it all in good spirits. I could have spent the time on the bag in complete misery, but I realized that everything including my body is only temporary, I might as well be happy.

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