Yes, it's normal.
It takes time and patience.
Other than AA?
Willpower, support from family and friends and keeping the reason you are qutting the foremost thought in your mind!
Good luck to you!

Hi. This sounds like me over and over again. Couple of suggs that saves me:Every AM I grab one of my Hazelden books (for meditations) and I read it and then I just stop and think. I know that its in the silence that God speaks and I just pray that God opens my ears, eyes, heart, soul and mind so that I may hear his word to me. I have to rely heavily on God -he's given me the gift of sobriety and I guard it with all my heart. Once I got sober my confidence goes right up there with it. When i'm out drinking and drugging I always feel like shit and look like shit too. When I make a positive change you can just guess what happens. Good luck and I will be praying for you.

I have been there myself, AA has the 12 steps so you can find yourself,those inventories are very important so you can know yourself again.

Yep, sounds normal. You've been hiding in a bottle for years, and your personal growth has been "stunted" during that time. The alcohol allowed you to avoid facing situations that you should have dealt with long ago.
I think it's true with all of us.

Try to start socializing with sober people. AA would work, and Church isn't a bad idea either. Once you get used to interacting with people while you are sober, you'll get your confidence back.

Also, try to figure out what you like to do in life, and begin doing it. I would imagine there are activities that you stopped doing because you were busy drinking. Think about picking them up again.

I made a decision to not drink today and figure out who I was later. The figuring out part came to me with living without drugs and alcohol. It is true that I am still discovering who I am and who I am not, but by being involved with people helps me in self-discovery. Listening to other people has kept my mind quiet for a few more minutes.

it is normal be strong patient and have will power we here for uxxx

I forgot to thank my biggest and only supporter-God!
Why is it we forget to give credit to the most important people in our lives. (?)
(And no, I'm far from being hugely religious but He is the only one that answered my screams for help almost 15 years ago.)
I also get MUCH support from all my friends here at DS.
MUCH more than the real life persons in my life.

You will not fix yours defects, God will. Just ask him to lead you and turn all your pain over to him. I have done this and I do feel better all the way around.

Yep, totally normal. When you're drinking you deny yourself and run from yourself and life so you're not gonna feel yourself much. after you're sober a while, you'll come back. It takes time. Look at your interests in life, hobbies you'd like to do? It's hard to feel that way I know all too well. Take care of yourself and your mind will clear more and you'll feel better in time. AA helps to be around sober alcoholics who can act as like a reflection to you. talking to others and all. You're gonna be ok, hang in there, hugs

I so totally know how you feel.....all of the comments people have been sharing with you can help you if you take the suggestions to heart.....feeling good again takes time but it will come to you as you get sober and stay sober.....accepting your alcoholism and doing something about it is the first step......having a higher power of your chosing gives you faith to believe in something greater than you, Find another woman in your AA meeting to sponsor you...someone who is working the 12 step program and who has some time being sober.....this is also a great website with lots of supportive people so stay in touch.....We are all there for you teenieb

It is absolutely normal, I am currently in withdrawl and it is the worst feeling. But you have to be hopeful -- think of everything you love in your life and realize that alcohol will destroy it. Be active... join a gym, go to the movies, just try to keep busy. Just don't give in be strong and know you find support.

One day at a time you will come to be the person, you really are. easy does it.Let go and let God. there are many more slogans. that apply to the newly sober.These slogans are not made up to piss you off.My favorite is "Your right where your supposed to be".It made me so angry.Today I believe in my sober life how could i be anywhere else in God's universe