Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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gjm 07/11/2010

Many days we are tempted to ask WHY? Why did this happen to me? Why was I singled out??? Why am I not a different person?? But the whys lead only to clever explanations and rationalizations of what we do or what we are. The question for us is not WHY but HOW ?

We ask how to learn and work our program of recovery the 'how' can give us a deeper understanding of the program. We ask are Higher Power How? and are hp provides the strength and guidance needed. 'HOW" will lead to everything needed to recovery and personal GROWTH

WHY IS IRRELEVANT

It is what it is

Compost 07/11/2010

So true Gjm.

It's not what happens to you but what you do about what happens.

okiyoe1 07/11/2010

Yes!! I heard Why not? Answered the question in liberating yet, " Open to possibilities Kind of Way"
Billy

deleted_user 07/11/2010

You are right - why is irrelevant, just like people who get other diseases, why is not really relevant - it's the action one takes to accept it live with it and treat it.

Life is not perfect.

Peace!

deleted_user 07/11/2010

You are right. I can ask myself "why" a thousand times and get no answers. I can ask "where can I go from here" and get a thousand replies.

deleted_user 07/11/2010

Yeah, G. Very true! It is what it is. Really no matter Why. The How is very important.

~Chris

deleted_user 07/11/2010

I sometimes think about the years I lost to alcohol, 17 of them, and consider how my life today would be right on track... if I were 17 years younger!

I can't afford to dwell on "why" because it's a short step from there to self-pity. The simple answer is, "I don't know," but I know I am exactly where God needs me to be right now. Whether I agree with God or not!

I find things go more smoothly for me if I ask "what next" rather than "why."

m8bear 07/11/2010

Yep...why me? Why not me!

Enough said.

deleted_user 07/11/2010

I really have lost my regrets over that time that some say is lost to drinking. Most of my life and probably most of my recovery are now in the rear view mirror, and strange to say, I find myself in possession of something that a lot of my contemporaries are either still looking for or have given up on, and that is the sense that I've done something with my life that puts the so-called lost years in perspective. Like dark tiles in a mosaic or threads in a tapestry, there would be no depth in the picture without them.

Taradactyl 07/11/2010

Okie dokie. ;-)

If I could just chill and DO without thinking, life would be so much simpler.

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