Alcohol Recovery Without 12 Steps Community Group

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Day five

keepitsimple247j
keepitsimple247j
So, it's day five. Physically I am feeling pretty well, just tired from work. Work is stressful, but when is it not. It pays the bills, ay. Mentally, my moods are kind of up and down. Today, not as bad. I had a long talk with someone on here about something that was bothering me and it helped me realize some things, more so accept them. Emotionally, I am not upset about quitting, It makes me feel safe. I think the hardest part of this process (FOR ME) is all the emotions and mixed feelings, the flashbacks/thoughts of the past, and the self esteem issue. But I know in my heart that my self esteem is going to grow because of this. I know this is the best decision for me, even though it may not be easy, I am ready. Last time when I quit, I was doing it not for myself. This time it is for me and I think that is why I am a bit calmer and taking my time to think things out clearly. Patience is just one of my biggest problems that I am learning to have. I desperately could use some for myself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good luck to you, and I know it's really hard, especially at first, but you can do it! And doing it for yourself is really the only way to be successful. I think this time will be different :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congrats on Day 5- now closing in on 6!!! We humans just LOVE to dwell on things we have no control over- and punish ourselves relentlessly. Keep that thought with you that you know your self-esteem IS growing (not will grow)...and maybe keep this little quote in mind:

"The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it is called the present." By ALICE MORSE EARLE
Rick8
Rick8
Great quote wokinwoman

You may find that patience works both ways. When I got sober I had no patience either but in a weird way. I wanted to make up or lost time. It was kind of and still is neat as i am much more productive.

In the beginning you go through the beat your self up process in "what was I thinking". That progresses to...I am a new person and let's get on with life sober. Everything you are going through is normal. Hang in there
Mandoman
Mandoman
Don't worry about the mood swings. They will level out. Also don't worry about trying to fix everything all at once. Take time to relax and breathe. There will be plenty of time to take care of problems and things that are bothering you later. Right now your main focus should just be on not drinking. Once your mind settles down then you will be in better shape to start dealing with things.
keepitsimple247j
keepitsimple247j
Mandoman, I really needed to hear that. Honestly, I don't remind myself that enough. I always feel so responsible to fixing everything at once that I just create even more stress and pressure. I need to focus on breathing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congratulations! You're fixing the big issue, and it's amazing how some of the others will seem less important as you spend more time sober...it's nice to hear that it's making you feel safe- I think it's one of the underrated benefits of not drinking... and keep breathing!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've been watching your posts with interest because we quit at about the same time (7/31 for you and 8/1 for me.) Today is day six for me. I'm feeling great physically too but thoughts of alcohol still creep into my head. I've just been filling my time with other things too (just got back from a 2 mile walk) and remembering how great it feels to beat this stuff. Just keep remembering that and stop beating yourself up. You need to feel great about what you've chosen to do for yourself and how great the future will be! That's what I'm trying to do. We're going to make it this time!!!