Find an Alanon meeting in your area - you need a group of your own and talking to people who are where you are at. Reach out there and take care of yourself.

my husband is sober but he have no clue how to make our marriage work; totally useless ad helpless, no idea how to be kind , gentle, caring; I am ready to move on I just got to find a room mate.. America is expensive. you can just move with rent on your own. sharent ret responsabilities with a room mate makes it much easier ... if you are in MA let me know.. I am lili at ya..hoo d..ot c..om