Just like making a Fear list or a Gratitude list, I make a list of all the things I must let go of to move on with my life. Then I can move into acceptance. Isn't it interesting that so many of our categories or topics intersect with one another.
Letting go of the idea that I can influence my son is his choices of how he eats, what he eats, how he lives, when he bathes or brushes his teeth. All of this is huge for me. Yes, I am powerless over this and making anyone do what I think they should do.
It was time to refresh this topic. I continue to learn when and how to let go of things I am powerless over.
I have to let go of the stories I continually play in my hear...the endless questions of "WHY" and "HOW COULD I HAVE DONE THINGS DIFFERENTLY?"
Today I Let Go Of: my son and his life choices.
my husbands inability to remember
the fact that there are just so many hours in the day
that I am human and will fall back on old habits
Today I Am Grateful: that new books come into my life that support and expand my Al Anon program
that I have my health
that I can grow in compassion and understanding
that I have a supportive network of people
that I can surrender my brand of VICTIMHOOD
Today when my son arrived and could not find some papers in the bin that is on our porch he rang the doorbell and started screaming that I got into his "shit." Yes, I had the papers so he would not lose them. My mistake.
I held it together...told him to stop screaming at me and that I had his papers.
I closed the door. Of course he was drunk. He had a bottle of beer in his hand. He had punched a wall or something and his knuckles had caked/dried blood on them. He has been punching walls a long time.
I share this because program, sponsor, the literature helped me to deal with this continuing challenge. The thing is I'm sure my son will not remember anything about this incident and I will.
Letting go of getting angry, annoyed and resentful when people don't do things MY WAY, which of course is the best and perfect way to do things.
Letting go of the notion that I can change people.
...and there are dozens more.
I have to let go of the stories I continually play in my hear...the endless questions of "WHY" and "HOW COULD I HAVE DONE THINGS DIFFERENTLY?"
Today I Let Go Of: my son and his life choices.
my husbands inability to remember
the fact that there are just so many hours in the day
that I am human and will fall back on old habits
Today I Am Grateful: that new books come into my life that support and expand my Al Anon program
that I have my health
that I can grow in compassion and understanding
that I have a supportive network of people
that I can surrender my brand of VICTIMHOOD
I held it together...told him to stop screaming at me and that I had his papers.
I closed the door. Of course he was drunk. He had a bottle of beer in his hand. He had punched a wall or something and his knuckles had caked/dried blood on them. He has been punching walls a long time.
I share this because program, sponsor, the literature helped me to deal with this continuing challenge. The thing is I'm sure my son will not remember anything about this incident and I will.