Yea I totally understand.
When you think to much about things that worry you it can cause your anxiety to flusster.
I try not to think about the bad, but the good.
The positive sides, it seems to help alot.

Maybe taking a break from thinking, maybe try some medatation or relaxation excersises might help.
As soon as you start thinking those worrying thoughts, do something to take your mind off them. n.n

I used to get really upset that all my so-called friends basically ignored me all the time. But I finally realized that you can't MAKE somebody care about you, and all the bitching and moaning in the world never helped me one bit.

If you continue to look outside yourself for somebody or something to validate you, you'll just continue to frustrate yourself. Learn to love and appreciate yourself, and then people will find you irresistible. (For a perfect example, just look at children.) You may be thinking, "But how can I love myself when it seems that nobody else does?" Therein lies your challenge, pal. Nobody said it would be easy!

The nice young lady above also has some great advice - distracting yourself is VERY effective when you notice that you're just thinking thinking thinking thinking...

i don't understand how someone studying engineering can have so many spelling mistakes.

"learnt"???
"smtimes"???
"frenz"???

i could understand if you were like 14 years old, but you're 21.

I'm a bit unsure if you are who you say you are.

Buddy actually its not i don't know the spellings its my way of writing fast.U must have heard about sms(shor message service) so this is my way of writing in short.Neways your reply made me laugh.Thnx.

yea, but i am assuming you are using a full size keyboard, not a cell phone.

it would take me more time to think of those short-hand ways of spelling things than just spelling it out

Do you suffer from agoraphobia? Is social anxiety what causes agoraphobia? I don't feel problems dealing with people when I get myself out there. For me, it's getting out there that is the problem. I find I can talk with people and interact now without the anxiety attacks. The klonopin has helped with that a lot.
Are you on any meds for your anxiety?

Hey steph.
Nope i am not on any meds.To be very honest i am confident person but its just that i think too much nad that is what causes most of the problems.
I know it takes a lot of effort to get up and move yourself outside your comfort zone but its gotta be done.We cannot remain in a shell.
You are more experienced than me so i don't have much to say but i hope you try to go out.It may be very hard in the beginning but gradually things will stabilize and i am sure you'll feel much better.
TAKE CARE.

Yes ~ I can relate 100%

Sometimes we get too involved with too much and it makes us more anxious.

I was leaving DS last week, as I had a real build up of pressure from trying to help people both in my life and on DS.

I was also trying to cope with SAD, using light therapy, meditation, Reiki, new meds .... I felt consumed by trying to fight anxiety.

Is that what you are trying to say above?

Angel xx

Yea to some extent.Thats what i am talking about.
But may main problem is that i thik too much and make assumptions.
To make things worse i have a tendency to take everything to my heart.

I can relate with this 100%.
Everytime I start thinking about things like this I do the same thing. But then my anxious turns into panic. So as soon I begin to think these things I just say one word.. RELAX.. I sometimes can just say it once .. and I will calm all my anxious thoughts.. sometimes I repeat it.. then after saying this to myself I will redirect my attention to something else.
Hope this helps...
Chloe
p.s
Number4940> Why would you even post a reply about someones spellings.Seriously you must have a lot of times on your hands to go around and try to correct peoples spelling..
Really this is a SUPPORT group! If you have nothing nice to contribute then why bother with it. We are here to help one another out. Not call out stupid little things.

stillhere,

you could see it as that i'm trying to help him communicate better with others.

some people might not understand at all.

i understand, but it takes me longer to "translate" the txtspk*

*txtspk = text speak**

**text speak = SMS chat language***

***SMS chart language = shorthand communication

see what I mean?

I can't understand y this coversation is even taking place.
Its ok.Thats your point of view NUMBER4940 and i don't have any problems with it.
We have more important things to discuss and this is not the right place for all this crap.
I request you to please emphasize on the problems our frez face rather than pointing out mistakes.
TAKE CARE.

Im sorry I should not have said anything .. I should have just left it alone.. Hope your doing well..

i think that we all have very sensitive personalities. is that a bad thing? we wonder what people think about us, we wonder what we think about ourselves. who's the judge?

Hey sweetdream>
You could'nt have said it better.
I don't know y but we do compare ourselves with others.