This is the first time I am really doing this. I have never visited a psychiatrist and this is a self-diagnosis. But come on how hard is it to realise that you have social phobia. I initially considered myself just an introverted person who takes time to open up to people. No big deal. But a month back when I moved to a new country I realised my problem is much much more complex. I don't talk to the people at work unless they talk to me first and constantly worry that they must hate me and think I am arrogant. They have reasons to. They are really nice people but I never initiate conversations unless strictly work-related. That too takes a tremedous amount of effort and about an hour of mental prep. Whenever I do manage to talk, I end up talking too fast and fear that I have made a fool of myself. I am always thinking that they are probably talking about me behing my back. The worst part is that I know these fears are baseless but cannot help it.
Aside from work too, I am terrified of entering new stores or trying out new things although I really want to. I am worried that i will embarass myself.
It really interferes with my daily life. Example yesterday I wanted to leave the office early because I did not have work but I couldn't muster the courage as 4 colleagues were talking right outside the office. In the end, I couldn't and left only when all of them had gone back.
The worst part is that I am not a person who is happy to be alone. I love talking to friends, going out and partying. But how can I when making friends is such an impossible feat?
Anyone just anyone who can relate?
Online friends are great and I appreciate having online friends very much!! But, when it is difficult to leave home, such as the agoraphobia I have, does anyone have ideas how to make friends in real life? I'm in my 40s. Thanks much for any ideas!
Well I have an update. Last week in therapy we informed our grandmother of our D.I.D. diagnosis and the basics of it and it went very well, much to my surprise. Now, however, our entire system just feels very uncomfortable about the whole thing and we've been in choas ever since. I dissapeared for a few days and the other did things I would never do. I'm stressing so much that I've been...