Hello,

im new to this . I’ll try to make this brief .im not married but been with my significant other for about 13 years . In the process we have 2 kids . About 7 years ago we separated for about half a year . We got back . About a year give or take the relationship was dying ! I didn’t want her to sleep with me . I wasn’t attracted to her anymore in the sense that her lack of not being the ideal woman that I hope for wasn’t there . She’s not responsible, didn’t have any consideration to everything I’ve done . I clean, wash clothes , keep things in order . Just to find her doing nothing . Most of the time just laying there. Didn’t care about nothing but her own world . She goes out , stays out late to the following day . I know her whereabouts . But the kids ask where’s Mom all the time she’s never here!” She’s been in her own funk , and I know she has been avoiding me . She leaves and comes back late , not considering that she’s a mom with kids !well yesterday it happen I got the Tex that she fell out of love , because I wasn’t attentive to her needs . Emotionally, sexually. This has been happening for many years . She felt neglected. The problem is that she never saw her flaws . To accept her damage as well . We talked last night kids got involved because I lost it . I cried . It hurts so much to lose them not seeing them everyday. To finalize we are still holding on because of the kids .i don’t want to lose my family . And I want to make it better . But it takes two . Her reply was , we have a co parenting support. And it’s difficult for both of us in all aspects . Financially. She said I can’t answer what’s to become of us because she doesn’t know anything. She wants to fix her self first . I said I’m giving you space , but I want respect during this process .i said one day at a time during the process to see what’s the outcome . She said yea” in a not convincing way . Point to all this to anyone is that I’m in distress! I’m at work not knowing how I’m still here . I want to leave and I know this won’t solve the problem . My heart is in pain , I’m holding my tears . I’m embarrassed to say this . I’m losing it seriously . Please someone help me , to aid or share your own personal experiences.

thankyou all for your time .