Adult Children of Alcoholics Community Group

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I love you, go away.

sassysmiles
sassysmiles
this sums up most of my relationships. which leaves me feeling disconnected. but it is so strong and embedded in my subconscious that i dont realize what im doing until i end up hurting others. my words get in the way or i dont know what words to say. i fear real intimacy but crave it at the same time. i fear rejection but i dont mind if I reject you as long as you dont reject me. it pisses me off. i just want to be normal. and to communicate how i feel without being scared of the end result. so get close to me but not too close. sigh.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I play this game too. For me, it goes back to My childhood abandonment/neglect. Pushing people away while simultaneously wishing they'd come after me reinforces my sick thinking "no one is there for me, no one really gives a $hit about me..."
It's really a popular pastime with ACA's!
lucylui
lucylui
I'm there also. Although I think my husband pushes me away a lot more than I do to him. The thing that is hard is that I'm willing to admit this and work on changing, he could care less. I guess I'm angry about that. "Darn it, this isn't easy pal, so if I'm going through this difficult stuff than you should be too!" haha! Yes, I have a long way to go... ! What is that saying, misery loves company.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
In the beginning of our friendship, I kinda took offense to some things you did but then I overlooked them with the understanding of who you were, where you had come from and what you were thinking. It's like....you want to change for the better but you don't dare leave your comfort zone because it's too scary!

I am just like that and that's how I know. You see most ACOA's never change. We stay that way all of our lives unfrotunately.

God Bless!
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