Welcome to the group! Hope you find the support you're after here!

I don't think you should avoid personal relationships, even if it's a deal-breaker for some people. We all have our little quirks and I think people should be accepted for who they are! Wet sheets and all haha

welcome

thank you!

I’m like you, I stopped dating. Yes, people should be accepted for who they are but this in not the case. Some disabilities are not accepted and incontinence is one of them, sorry.
Could you imagine being in bed with a girl and telling her “sorry, let me first taking my diaper off”? I can’t.

I also started bedwetting in my late 50'safter being a bedwetter as a child. I am more worried about all the sudden urges I have during the day when I am out some place. It seems like starts coming and there is nothing I can do to stop it. I have had 3 accidents outside the house twice in a restaurant and once while I was outdoors I didn't make it back in. I am trying to decide what I will wear in public. Pull up depends are not heavy enough

I would say that you shouldn't stop dating. I would say keep dating, not all dates end up in bed. If you find that it might lead to that, I suggest you let her know that you have a medical condition and because of that your doctor suggests you wear protection at night. Wearing a night shirt is what I do so when I'm wearing a diaper, it's not really noticeable and both her and I seem to feel that not seeing the diaper at night makes it out of sight, out of mind.

I fully understand your concern because wearing a diaper every night is sometimes hard for a partner to take. I suppose the best approach is to just be up front and honest about it. I would hope if someone is interested in you that diapers shouldn’t stand in the way.

I often think that issues around dating are the most common topic on any bedwetting/incontinence forum. It is hard to find people, who are understanding from the outset. That might change if they get to know us better, but it's not something to start off with. And yes, like some other people here, I don't date.

I know what you mean, ABCROSS. If this helps in any manner, realize the people in your life who truly care about you will have an understanding about this. My friends here do. I mean, at home.
Meeting someone new is always difficult under any circumstances. I suppose it's always best to get to know someone well before going too fast. I made that mistake a lot in my youth.
Approach dating with cautious optimism. Don't stop entirely. Wait until you feel it is the right time.
Who knows, maybe the woman you meet may have any equally difficult and embarrassing problem.
Good luck!

I was lucky in that my bedwetting was intermittent enough that I wasn't wearing diapers at night when I met my wife, but I am now. I think this is a much bigger deal in our minds than in most potential mates. I'm on other groups as well, and most of the membership send to be in long term relationships. Don't give up, just realized that one night stands are probably not a good idea.

I saw this, and I wanted to say not to stop dating. Most women won't care, and the ones who do just aren't right for you. I did alot of research on this in my younger years and know many adult wetters who have successful relationships, either with a string of more casual partners or a marriage. My own husband wears diapers every night and it's not a problem.

Most women aren't as shallow as you might imagine. A caring personality and internal drive to be your best is much more important. Women look to match with men who share their values, sense of humor, interests, things like that. The bedroom attire might get a funny look and lots of questions, even suggestions, at first, but it's rarely a deal breaker.