Adult Bedwetting Community Group

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deleted_user
deleted_user
Has anyone else here come to enjoy being a bedwetter?

I've wet the bed my whole life, and I used to HATE it. Being a senior in high school, and having my 6 years younger sister get to take the plastic sheet off her bed because she hadn't wet in three months, and I'm still peeing almost every night was the worst feeling in the world. I was considering suicide I felt so crappy about myself. But I eventually, grudgingly accepted this is how I was born, and gave up trying to stay dry. (Nothing helped anyway.)

Well, good for her, but now at 47 and still wetting almost every night, I have come to consider myself lucky. Yes, lucky! Over at the Experience Project there are others like myself who enjoy being bedwetters, who wet on purpose, and who are trying to "regress" (I hate that term). It kinda blows my mind, but I really do enjoy it now. I'm losing my daytaime control as well, and welcome it.

Maybe it's a case of turning lemons into lemonade, or maybe I am just a twisted f***.

I don't want to make this a fetish site, I've seen other support sites taken over by fetishists and liars, but I am truly curious if anyone else here has positive feelings about their bedwetting.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would not say that I have come to enjoy it. I have come to accept it and it does not really bother me anymore; it’s just a part of who I am. I do still like the brief periods of dry nights that I have because even though I don’t mind wear a diaper at night, I like not wear it one more. I will say this though, as I get older and some of my friends are starting to prostate problems and grip about frequent trips to the bathroom at night, I am thankful that I don’t have that to look forward to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can see what you mean. In a way, I suppose that I would choose not to wet all the time. After all these years, it is hard to sleep without a diaper because I guess that I'm just used to the comfort. If I'm in bed and not yet asleep and I feel the urge to urinate, I will sometimes just go because I'm so used to it. I wouldn't call it a fetish, but like you said, part of my life that I'm used to and comfortable with.
dribblerlot
dribblerlot
This is a difficult area for many people - me included. How can I not like diapers because they give me the ability to lead life in a pretty stress free way. I really do wish I didn't need them but still shudder when I think of the anxiety and embarrassment I endured when trying to manage without protection.
I hope this kind of personal adjustment will not turn into enjoyment because that would complicate things for me and mean something that I only use out of need would become something I wanted and this would conflict with my personal aim to rely on protection as little as possible. I also suspect that "enjoyment" might be a short term thing and for most of us there are probably better ways of getting satisfaction.
Like other posters I will sometimes use my diaper when I could have tried to get to the bathroom - it's a judgement call and if it's already wet I will do it my diaper if I wake up rather than disturb my wife and break her nights sleep- she had enough of that earlier on when sheets had to be changed in the middle of the night because I was too stubborn to accept I needed protection.
deleted_user
deleted_user
you guys have said it all here , if i could not be a bedwetter, thats what id chosse, but after many doctors many divises, i have been in cloth diapers and plastic pant all my live, you know if i thank about it have not owned underwear that i can remember been so long, i am now 54 so i dont think things will chahge, so i understand how you feel.
deleted_user
deleted_user
No, I don't enjoy it. Not even a little bit.

I am amazed that there are married men on here with understanding wives. I have not been able to find anyone who will be understanding even though it is an occasional problem. As soon as women find out they are gone.

Although I accept it, I will never enjoy something that will probably cause me to be alone the rest of my life.
Dribbler
Dribbler
I think that marraige can be a mixture of "give and take" - I was lucky and our relationship survived a few wet beds in the early years - partly because my wife had a history of late bedwetting herself - Later she had a lot of control problems after the birth of our children and until an operation was sometimes leaky if she could not get to the toilet in time. I had to go into diapers again 6 years ago and she has been wonderfully supportive. She has also endured 2 bouts of major surgery and again the pendulum swung a little and bowel problems meant she needed a lot of support. Now she has asked me about kegal exercises and I know is wearing biger panty pads. She would hate to be in diapers 24/7 and I have explained that this is not likely to be neccesary - but if it is we'll cope or at least give it a damn good try.
bedwetter7
bedwetter7
For some reason I have enjoyed the wearing of my cloth pinned on diapers and my plastic panties. I think they are very comfortable and I do get turned on in them. It did not start out that way but now I look forward to putting on my night diapers and my plastic panties. I even wear my diapers and my plastic panties sometimes during the day and I even have my cloth pinned on diapers and my plastic panties on right now.
ST50
ST50
Enjoy would be too strong a description. However I have accepted my incontinence and nightly bedwetting as a way of life. I have grown acustomed to the wet feeling and the inevitable smell of my bedwetting. My wife says she can't smell it but I know anyone entering our bedroom would know a bedwetter sleeps here. At first I was distraught that after almost 30 years of dry nights with only the odd relapse I was back to nightly bedwetting just as I did as a child and teenager. I was so worried my wife would think she had married a dirty old man who at 50 yers old was incontinent. I was so relieved when she told me she loved me and my bedwetting and incontinence didn't bother her one bit. She encouraged me to see the doctor and get refered to a urologist and a continence nurse. Once I had my diagnosis and it was obviousI would have to cope with some degree of incontinence for the rest of my life. I decided the best way forward was to accept it and make the best of it. I certainly don't enjoy being a bedwetter or having to wear pads during the day but it no longer bothers me at all.
iampadded
iampadded
I agree with ST50. I am probably too young (26) to enjoy it. I am still shamed by it and it certainly cramps my mid 20's bachelor lifestyle with dating and all. But I have been a bedwetter my entire life. Although I now have extended (3-4 days) dry spells, I probably wet at night more nights than not. However in my close nit family, we do make light of it. My mother and older sister routinely buy me playful printed plastic pants for gifts and I do enjoy my bedwetter's fashions. I also think nothing of going in my diaper if I happen to wake up and its already wet. I except that I will always have this condition to some extent and refuse to let it "own" me in any meaningful way.
iampadded
iampadded
"accept" not "except" :) I hate spell checkers.
timetested
timetested
I think people often confuse acceptance and enjoyment. Acceptance is simply refusing to live in shame because of it. It really struck me reading iampadded's comment above. If he was wearing a fun pair of boxers, no one would make a big deal out of it. Why make a big deal about wearing playful plastic pants? All too often, there's an attitude that people who require diapers and/or rubber pants should be ashamed of it and wear only the most medical-style protection available. No one would complain if people signed a cast or decorated it to make it more comfortable. Why the attitude when it comes to diapers?
NW47guy
NW47guy
I don't wake when I wet. The multiple different urologists have determined that for some reason my brain and my bladder no longer communicate while I sleep. I wet nightly and am wearing full protection. I normally wet to 3/4 of the capacity of the diapers so if I do wake say about 4am and have to go, I make the call if my diaper can absorb it or not and if I think it can, instead of just getting up and going to the bathroom, which disturbs my ability to go back to sleep, I will lay there and let it go, then the diaper does what it's there for because I will fall right back to sleep quicker. On weekend mornings I wake late and lay there a long time before I get up, sometimes I'm very comfy feeling, it's a nice feeling, it's just comfortable at times like that and I like it.
ST50
ST50
I almost always just let go in my nappy if I wake up during the night needing to go. If the bed gets wet then so be it as it is protected andI just deal with it in the morning.
MJinMN
MJinMN
Looks like a fetish post to me
ST50
ST50
There are women out there that are understanding and will accept a man who bedwets. I am very lucky and have a wife who isn't in the slightest bothered about my incontinence. I wet almost every night yet she has no problem sleeping with me even if the bed is quie wet by morning it doesn't bother her as long as I don't get her side wet she often has no idea as she is always up for work first. My nappies and pads don't worry here either and often she is the one who orders them for me.
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