My best friend gave up a baby boy back in 1962. She has since had and raised two daughters. I met her the year after she gave him up. She has talked about him whenever we were together all these years, wondering if he was Ok, happy etc: Fast fwd to the present: She now has the beginnings of Alzheimers and has trouble remembering daily things but still remembers him. She says she would like to find him but worries about what her husbands family will think of her if they knew. Her husband is also afraid her son will reject her and he's worried how that would affect her(she's had some seizures)and he doesn't want her upset. Her oldest daughter doesn't know she has a half brother but the youngest one does. My friend is not really close to her oldest daughter(she lives in another state)and she's afraid this would drive them farther apart. Here's the question.......Should I try to find him on my own? and if I do, find out how he feels about her before I tell her? I've been to the adoption agency but they won't give me any info. I've had them send my friend papers to sign so they can do a search but she doesn't remember getting them and I doubt she would sign them anyway. I want her to meet her son before her mind is gone completely. Can anyone help??????
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