I know what you mean. I was adopted as a newborn and I’m now 17. I may still be young but I feel the abandonment feeling.

Just an opinion. I wasn't adopted as a newborn. Rather my birth parents decided when I was 14 it was okay to abandon me. I was babysitting this lady's two boys and they dumped me on her.
So yes I very much understand the feeling of not being good enough and being abandoned.
My suggestion to anyone with this issue is to appreciate the mother and father who didn't abandon you...your adopted parents.

I FEEL THE SAme way I feel like I wasn't meant to be born that's why my life has been so bad I feel like I'm being punished every day of my life if my own mother diddnt want me than why would someone else want me I have never been loved by anyone and I just turned 50 all I ever been is used and abused by people I thought I was the only one who felt this way

I feel the EXACT same way and I know what you are talking about. All my life I have been unwanted and when something small happends it all is because of me it dosnt matter if it is something completely unrelated its just me. I feel as though if my bio parents don't want me then why would a stranger?

To all of you who posted before me, I am so sorry you feel that way.

I am the mother of 3 and I gave my youngest daughter up for adoption 27 years ago.

Never once was she not wanted. Not one-day goes by that I do not think of her, and I was not giving her up, I was giving her a life that was hopefully to be better than what I could provide at that time.

To carry your child for 9 months and then placing for adoption is not an act of selfishness or hate. It is an act of compassion. It is an act of pure love to give a child birth and place it with parents that are not yourself.

I can understand where you are all coming from but I think you should try to see things from the birth parent's point.

My story in a paragraph.

I had a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old. I was not supposed to be able to become pregnant but did. My husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer which was devastating. I personally was not able to mentally or emotionally provide for a baby when my husband was dying and I had two toddlers. The only option for me for as an individual was adoption. My baby girl went to parents that had been trying for 13 years to have a baby.

Talisia was not unloved or unwanted. She is very much loved. But she deserved to have a life that I was unable to provide.

It is very easy to abort a child. Less guilt, less connection, less memories of carrying this life for 9 months but to give a child up for adoption is realizing that it is about the child and the sacrifice and pain we endure to secure you a better life is priceless.

I am so sorry.

But know that you are not alone! there are several adoption support groups on facebook and elsewhere.

Adoption sucks for many who live with it, even though the world at lareg glamorizes and promotes it as a win-win.

I feel that way all the time. Not feeling good enough has always affected everything in my life, from relationships to work, etc. You are not alone.