Adoption Support Group

Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.

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StrongerThanYesterday18
StrongerThanYesterday18

I have considered for a long time putting my 3 year old son up for adoption. And its really gnawing at me. 


No matter how bad I want something or someone in my life its important to not be selfish right? 


What matters is what's best for him right?  Regardless of how bad I want to be selfish? 


I love my son with all my heart but I truly feel he'd be better off. We don't have the relationship we should due to many many factors. If someone cares to hear,  I will share.  But I need advice.  Badly. 


Has anyone here adopted out a toddler or adopted a toddler?  I really need some advice from people who have been through it or knows someone who has. I'm having a really hard time. 

growthhurts
growthhurts
Hi, I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Can I ask why you are considering this?
StrongerThanYesterday18
StrongerThanYesterday18
growthhurts - I messaged you
NOLAGirl919
NOLAGirl919
I will pray for guidance for you as you consider your options. My husband and I have considered adoption, but have not yet done so. It takes a special person and a deep love to make the decision that their child would be better suited raised by another family to love them. Is there are a reason for your considering adoption over other options? Hope things get better.
StrongerThanYesterday18
StrongerThanYesterday18
He just deserves better and there were issues before and after he was born that have left a hole in the relationship between us. I have fully decided to put him up for adoption. Now is just the process and time.
LilGiSmiles
LilGiSmiles
I completely respect your decision(s), I have been an adoption worker in my state of nearly 9 years and giving up one's rights for the purposes of their child's stability and permanency, and overall best interest and well being is the most selfless act I have been privileged to witness. Any assistance, thoughts, questions, please don't hesitate to ask, perhaps I can be of assistance. But, remember, adoption or the surrender of one's parental rights is final and once completed, can not be overturned. At that point, your opinion will no longer be considered or matter... Remember, there truly is no such thing as an "open" adoption, regardless of what someone may say or have the intentions of at the onset of meeting and forming relationships. Hope this helps...
StrongerThanYesterday18
StrongerThanYesterday18
I would love to speak with you
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