ADHD / ADD Support Group
Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.
I should complete a year with a six figure salary in a down economy. It's possible to succeed with ADHD; last night I took down 6 books to read because I would be bored with one, and made plans to see 2-3 movies depending upon what I liked. Here are some suggestions for raising and dealing with ADHD kids and adults.
1. Accept him People are different with different skills. Each child is unique While you want your child to be successful, recognize there are different skills and people; Michael Phelps became a champion swimmer with ADD. Let your child use his skills to make his mark. Tell your child you love him and dont let failures in one course make your entire relationship unpleasant. Be careful of hurtful comparisons to other children.
2. Use the tool that works for him Material can be organized and recalled in Outlook, on a cellphone, or in a notebook or daytimer. There are many effective tools so let your child select and use a tool that works for him.
3. Attention Spans are Limited Try to work on dates with a schedule- every Monday, we'll go over tasks , Get your child used to writing things down in an organized fashion, and do not mention dates in a car when obviously they cannot be transcribed. pa
4. Compliment Sandwich Imagine commenting about a womans weight and then expecting a favorable response to what follows. Criticism will reduce the effectiveness of your message. Instead, begin and end your message with a compliment, and try to reduce its negative impact.
5. Emotional and school problems Problems with popularity and bullying may mask themselves as organizational or learning problems. In a delicate fashion, try to understand if something is bothering your child. ADD children may have social issues as they may not listen to other children or want to play the games others like. Work on developing good social skills, such as listening, cooperation and empathy. Sadly, boys do need to learn how to fight and ignoring problems simply makes them worse.
6. Limit Stress Stress will aggravate organizational problems and problems like ADD. Try to avoid marital or post-divorce stress in front of your child.
7. Gently Monitor Your childs success and motivation are his own. You want to periodically child work, but do it in a pleasant and positive way. A group of kindergarteners were left some markers in a test. One group was given rewards for best project and work done, and the other nothing. Guess which group did more artwork- the group which received nothing. The nothing group did the artwork because it was fun, while the other group did less because it was perceived as work.
8. Accurately Estimate or Overestimate Potential Problems
Its 9:00 the day before your project is due and the convenience store does not have the colored markers or construction paper you need. Gently try to teach your child to expect problems and delays, and leave added time to anticipate them. Asking people for help and advising them of problems before a deadline is always better than after.
9. Don't protect your child from the teacher He will have to learn the consequences of missed deadlines and assignments- better now than later. .
10. Material can be Learned in Different Ways. In algebra, the material can be learned from the book or lectures. Some like me are less auditory and learn more from books. Teach your child different ways to learn material, but note that he will spend more time on schoolwork if he uses his time at home to do things that were taught in class.
11. Keep Material in the Same Place and Develop Procedures. Losing papers is a serious problem for those with ADD. Developing routines and keeping books and papers in the same place can reduce that. Do not yell at your child. Remember if he loses his science assignment and doesn;t tell you because he's scared of you getting made, the consequences become far more than the initial loss.
12. Look to change, not criticize. Your child will make mistakes, and need to develop better procedures. Nagging and complaining about what was done make lead him to turn you out, and simply lead him to turn out your message. See 5
13. Have parents be a non-stressful resource and source of support Your child will make mistakes and get bad grades. Ideally you want to use that incident as a way of changing patterns.
14. Let your child do ADD type things in your spare-time I am a professional with ADD, and keep a daily list of things to do, and comprehensive list of pending projects. Outside of work, I enjoy doing multiple things and in leisure doing what it feels right. I take 4 books to a beach, and may see 4 movies at a time. (maybe its not ADD movies are just lousy). Organizational skills are required in a particular endeavor.
15. Recognize gender differences More boys and men have ADD and some behavior is characteristically male. Women seem better organized, and seem to enjoy multiple item tasks such as planning a trip or wedding. The Frank Sinatra I Did it My Way tends to a male-oriented trade
16. Dont be Afraid to Change Teachers But Make Sure that is the Problem Some teachers are better than others, and if possible, you want to get your child the teacher who can make the course interesting and rewarding. However, dont be the parent who blames the teacher for delivering an accurate assessment of your childs abilities and deficiencies. Be involved with your childs teachers in a collaborative way,and generally utilize his teachers knowledge and observations. Asking for a teacher who is the best fit is an effective way of asking for the teacher you want.
17. Work on neatness Sloppiness in a room may allow papers to be lost. Work on neatness and organization at home. Work on accomplishing your goal in a manner your child likes. Would you like particular cabinets, storage areas or other things to help keep the room neat and organized.
18. Organization Tools Numbers, Colors and Letters Consider numbered or colored dividers, visual cues, and other tools to improve organization.
19. Books and Seminars Developing organizations skills can be the most important thing your child does, for it can impact every subject, and the work he will later do. Read books, consult experts, and speak with teachers to improve your overall understanding and the particular issues your child faces.
20. Time and Place Gender habits can play a role, and women may want to talk about things to do in various locations. If your child is using a computer and he does not have it with him, the discussion accomplishes little. Practice the same type of good organization you expect.
21. Setting out routines
1. Accept him People are different with different skills. Each child is unique While you want your child to be successful, recognize there are different skills and people; Michael Phelps became a champion swimmer with ADD. Let your child use his skills to make his mark. Tell your child you love him and dont let failures in one course make your entire relationship unpleasant. Be careful of hurtful comparisons to other children.
2. Use the tool that works for him Material can be organized and recalled in Outlook, on a cellphone, or in a notebook or daytimer. There are many effective tools so let your child select and use a tool that works for him.
3. Attention Spans are Limited Try to work on dates with a schedule- every Monday, we'll go over tasks , Get your child used to writing things down in an organized fashion, and do not mention dates in a car when obviously they cannot be transcribed. pa
4. Compliment Sandwich Imagine commenting about a womans weight and then expecting a favorable response to what follows. Criticism will reduce the effectiveness of your message. Instead, begin and end your message with a compliment, and try to reduce its negative impact.
5. Emotional and school problems Problems with popularity and bullying may mask themselves as organizational or learning problems. In a delicate fashion, try to understand if something is bothering your child. ADD children may have social issues as they may not listen to other children or want to play the games others like. Work on developing good social skills, such as listening, cooperation and empathy. Sadly, boys do need to learn how to fight and ignoring problems simply makes them worse.
6. Limit Stress Stress will aggravate organizational problems and problems like ADD. Try to avoid marital or post-divorce stress in front of your child.
7. Gently Monitor Your childs success and motivation are his own. You want to periodically child work, but do it in a pleasant and positive way. A group of kindergarteners were left some markers in a test. One group was given rewards for best project and work done, and the other nothing. Guess which group did more artwork- the group which received nothing. The nothing group did the artwork because it was fun, while the other group did less because it was perceived as work.
8. Accurately Estimate or Overestimate Potential Problems
Its 9:00 the day before your project is due and the convenience store does not have the colored markers or construction paper you need. Gently try to teach your child to expect problems and delays, and leave added time to anticipate them. Asking people for help and advising them of problems before a deadline is always better than after.
9. Don't protect your child from the teacher He will have to learn the consequences of missed deadlines and assignments- better now than later. .
10. Material can be Learned in Different Ways. In algebra, the material can be learned from the book or lectures. Some like me are less auditory and learn more from books. Teach your child different ways to learn material, but note that he will spend more time on schoolwork if he uses his time at home to do things that were taught in class.
11. Keep Material in the Same Place and Develop Procedures. Losing papers is a serious problem for those with ADD. Developing routines and keeping books and papers in the same place can reduce that. Do not yell at your child. Remember if he loses his science assignment and doesn;t tell you because he's scared of you getting made, the consequences become far more than the initial loss.
12. Look to change, not criticize. Your child will make mistakes, and need to develop better procedures. Nagging and complaining about what was done make lead him to turn you out, and simply lead him to turn out your message. See 5
13. Have parents be a non-stressful resource and source of support Your child will make mistakes and get bad grades. Ideally you want to use that incident as a way of changing patterns.
14. Let your child do ADD type things in your spare-time I am a professional with ADD, and keep a daily list of things to do, and comprehensive list of pending projects. Outside of work, I enjoy doing multiple things and in leisure doing what it feels right. I take 4 books to a beach, and may see 4 movies at a time. (maybe its not ADD movies are just lousy). Organizational skills are required in a particular endeavor.
15. Recognize gender differences More boys and men have ADD and some behavior is characteristically male. Women seem better organized, and seem to enjoy multiple item tasks such as planning a trip or wedding. The Frank Sinatra I Did it My Way tends to a male-oriented trade
16. Dont be Afraid to Change Teachers But Make Sure that is the Problem Some teachers are better than others, and if possible, you want to get your child the teacher who can make the course interesting and rewarding. However, dont be the parent who blames the teacher for delivering an accurate assessment of your childs abilities and deficiencies. Be involved with your childs teachers in a collaborative way,and generally utilize his teachers knowledge and observations. Asking for a teacher who is the best fit is an effective way of asking for the teacher you want.
17. Work on neatness Sloppiness in a room may allow papers to be lost. Work on neatness and organization at home. Work on accomplishing your goal in a manner your child likes. Would you like particular cabinets, storage areas or other things to help keep the room neat and organized.
18. Organization Tools Numbers, Colors and Letters Consider numbered or colored dividers, visual cues, and other tools to improve organization.
19. Books and Seminars Developing organizations skills can be the most important thing your child does, for it can impact every subject, and the work he will later do. Read books, consult experts, and speak with teachers to improve your overall understanding and the particular issues your child faces.
20. Time and Place Gender habits can play a role, and women may want to talk about things to do in various locations. If your child is using a computer and he does not have it with him, the discussion accomplishes little. Practice the same type of good organization you expect.
21. Setting out routines
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