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Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.

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GiveMeWings 02/15/2007

We have hit a wall with my sons IEP. We had a reward system in place that he cant keep up with. In this system, he gets graded on his behavior each day and gets a progress report at the end of each day to bring home to me so that I may reward him accodingly and I am consistent with the school. Howeever, he has only remember to bring it home like 4 times. Each time he did very well during the day. But he has lost interest or just plain forgets to pick it up and I am concerned he is losing the positive effect. His teacher feels he should be the one to remember to pick it up each day. I have made bribes to try and get him to remember but he just doesnt. Any other ideas?

deleted_user 02/15/2007

You need to tell the teacher that it is his responsibilty to make child bring it home. The teacher is as much apart of it as you and your son are. Put your foot down with the teacher. It should not just stop there at the school with the teacher and your son. If you want it to work then tell the teacher so. Sounds to me that the teacher really doesn't care how it turns out for your son. And if you get nowhere there, then march to the princibal and to the superintendant. Make your feelings heard and known. You want your child to succeed at school and at home and there has to be equal effort from both parties. Best way to put it, it's like a dance. Now get out there and dance. Good luck. I'm having the same problems with my son and his school. bad thing is is that it was the princibal that put him on the IEP. But I have a meting soon to figure out whats going on. Good luck again.

deleted_user 02/15/2007

We did a reward chart with our son, so he could physically see it each day. He earned stars each day for good grades and good behavior. After earning so many stars, he would get an Element Skateboard. We even cut out a picture of the skateboard for the chart. It seems he needed a visual reminder of what his goal was, to keep him motivated. Just an idea for you. Good luck and God bless!

GiveMeWings 02/16/2007

Thank you for the feedback. I will push more with school and come up with a different idea. I am new at this however, and I don't have many ideas to pull from. I like the at home reward system with the stars and chart. I think having a picture will keep him motivated. I just wish I could figure something out for when he is at school. Especially since that is where he has the most problems with being overstimulated, etc...

deleted_user 02/16/2007

ask your teacher if there is a child in the classroom that is really good with remembering things. And have that child remind your son to get everything. Sorta like a class mentor. Or have a note taped to his desk that has 1. make sure I remember all my homework, 2, Make sure I have my progress report, 3. Make sure I turn in all my work.

I did this with 3 my kids and for 3 of them it worked for my son never mind. Your son might also do better in a smaller class setting. Check your Special Ed classes at the school. The SE classes at our old school in another state was great but the SE here were we are now isn't that great. But the school out here does have another program for children to that have mental health issues and can't keep up with thier normal classrooms. My son is now in one there are only 6 stutdents in the class and all are boys. This is his second week and maybe I am jumping the gun here but I was so excited that he actually came home from school sat down and did his homework with only complaining about his spelling a little bit. What a big difference for him.

I am rambeling again. Sorry

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