ADHD / ADD Support Group
Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.
My oldest son is 4 and in daycare. I had to remove him from a previous preschool after only 6 days because he had such a hard time with the other kids. He has been at his current daycare since April and has improved tons with his interaction with other kids and transitioning between activities. But he still has a difficult time. I have always feared that he has ADD or ADHD because he has such a hard time being still, staying focused, interacting with other kids. His teacher has expressed her concerns and I feel lost. Alone. My husband won't even discuss the possibility that there is something going on. I know that he is young and thats the main reason I'm not looking into having him evaluated any further. and as of now he isn't any danger to himself or others. He is such a sweet little boy. But he can't control his emotions. Little things send him over the edge into a horrible tantrum. I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I pray for him....for me to have strength and wisedom in parenting him. Anyways thats my intro. I also have a 2 yr old son. My name is Jamie.
My Daughter is 8 and was just diagnosed with ADD in the spring. My husband, like yours, refused to discuss it or put her on meds. It was a rough time in our marriage because I felt like he was making me choose between him and the well being of our Daughter. I finally got him to agree to trying the meds (Biphentin 20 mg) for a month to see what happens. The results were amazing. She jumped 7 levels in reading and was doing so well in the other area of school as well.
Because she wasnt diagnosed until the end of grade two she is now having to catch up with the rest of the kids because she was so far behind. If you think your son has him, please discuss it with his Dr. now so that he can learn with the rest of his class and wont fall behind. the longer you wait, the further behind he will be.
Melissa
Your son sounds like my son at 4:0) He is almost 6 now and we are just now finally facing the fact that he has ADHD. We have him 10 mg a day of Ritalin and he has been on the meds for a weeks now. We are noticing some minor improvments already and we hope he'll improve even more. When he went into grade one - it was such a shock to him despite having been in preschool and kindergarten. He did well socially in SK so we were hoping we were mistaken and that he just needed time to mature a bit more. His self esteam is suffering now and I wish we had acted sooner. I don't really see any benefit to waiting to see a doctor, I wish we had done that while he was still in SK. My husband refuses to take my son to a naturalpathic doctor he thinks that's all a waste time - I would like to go to see what they suggest.
Good luck to you - you sound like just the kind of mom your son needs, patient and supportive. You are his biggest advocate.
something hit me while I was reading your post when you mentioned about thinking your son just needed to mature more. I have been saying that about my daughter for a long time and i never made the connection. It was almost like a light bulb went off. Emily is a great kid, but she is not as mature as most of the kids her age.