my son has learning problem. They said that he falls on the line of getting more help. He also has problem with forgetting things. not getting things done on time. We have to tell him one thing to do before he does anything else. Have they tested him to see if he has any learning problems? The med do help. I have to put my sons meds out for him and make sure he takes them. He is 17.

first off it is unprofessional to call any child lazy. They may not be capable of handleing the work.

but it sounds to me like your son can handle it unlike my son.

remember there is only so much both a parent and teacher can do. I have 4 children and 2 are ADD and one is ODD. My twins learned pretty quick to get things in. One had only gotten a deficiency note 3 times this year, where the other has brought home sticker slipps maybe 10 times this year. My son on the other had which is ODD had a really bad time and finally at the beginging of the new year the school put him in a smaller classroom with only 10 students in it as well as a teachers aid. He struggels more now with the children in the classroom because they have about the same issues as he does.

Every week when the kids would bring home deficiency notes or sticker slips this is what we would do. For every sticker slip they get a $1 for every assignment they didn't turn in and was on thier defiecentcy they owed me a nickle. If they didn't have the money they would have to do extra chores around the house.

With my oldest who is only 6 months older then my twins and 18 months older then my son and is not ADD or ODD she still has a hard time. They all know what they need to do. We would remind them of the things that could happen. 1. Ask questions if you don't understand. 2. Put a things to do list on your desk and tape it. 3. Remind yourself that if you don't get these things done you could be repeating the grade.

Children with ADD, ADHD, ODD, Bipolar and other mental illness are very bright. They just need to learn how to use thier smarts to better themselves. I remind my children of that everyday. My son is finally getting it and feeling a bit more comfortable within himself. The youngest out of the twins thinks she is all that and a bag of chips. (the children I couldn't stand when Iwas in school.) I finally told my daughter that she really needs to slow down and thing about the way she says things because it can effect the other children in a negitive way because it did with me. Deep down I knew I was smart but because of the smarter children always getting picked by the teacher because they new the answers. Made me feel incapable of doing the work. I lost myself by the time I was in the 10th grade and dropped outt in the 11th.

I am rabeling this moring. Sorry. I hope I helped. With husband up this morning with me and my mind stuck on my stuffy head I can't seem to keep my thoughts in order.

Have the teacher either put a note on his desk to remind him to turn in his assignments, or maybe give him a student mentor in class to help him get back on track. Even if you have to go to the school (if you can) and make sure that he turns in all his work at the begining of the day and brings it home.

Hope this gives you some ideas.

cyndi

My son's biology teacher just e-mailed me with the weeks schedule! I am so excited! And my husband and I had a long talk with our son and told him he needs to focus on school more than he has. If he doesn't bring his materials home EVERY night (whether he did it in school or not)he will have consequences. Maybe this semester will be better! **By the way, he does have a learning disability. To be honest with you, I don't think or know how the teachers are addressing it. Because he's bright, they seem to forget. Thanks!

Here's my 2 cents worth....a friend of mine has a son in a similar situation, and he is very bright, but struggled in the same way of turning the work in. Since he could remember other things that he had decided were important she was sure this was situational rather than part of his learning disability. I didn't see how old your son is, but he was in the 7-8th grades when she did this: She gave him the option of remembering on his own to turn the work in, or she would help him remember by going to school with him to turn the work in. Amazingly when faced with his "mom" coming in he was able (although not perfectly, but for the majority of the time) to "remember" what needed to be turned in, and his mom refused to allow the teachers to lower their expectations for him. They believed he could do it, he knew he could, he was choosing not to. Each situation is different, but it helped him to know that he could do it.

Funny, I suggested something similar to my son the other day. I told him that perhaps if I arrange to have a "shadow" follow him around the school to make sure he has everything, it would help him to remember and not lose things. He flipped out, to say the least. Looks like he's starting to buckle down more, so we will see. Eventually, he will learn a system...it just makes it really hard to have ADD when hormonal!