ADHD / ADD Support Group
Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.
Hey everyone, I am 41 year old male and have been a mess the last 10 years or so.
I was just diagnosed for the first time with ADHD and it feels like it might be right... here's the essence of my problem:
1 - Whatever I do, i get very very very excited and focused for a while but then for some %^&* reason BAM i decide I have another idea and then have diminished interest in the first - so i hardly ever finish anything. Same for jobs.. i love them for a month-three then HATE them and cannot bring myself to go back in so i quit... it's like the second i stop learning new things, i get so bored it becomes torture to keep repeating the same tasks day-in day-out.
2 - For the life of me, I cannot help but make every apartment I live in a mess.. I let it go to disgusting level, then i clean up perfectly, but then cannot manage to bother and just throw the empty containers anywhere as if i'm outside, when it gets a total stinking mess i clean up and the cycle repeats.. its not that i'm a pig, it's just that my mind cannot be bothered to put things away properly because it seems like a 'waste of time' ?!?! It takes SUCH an effort it's unbelievable, like i'm tearing myself away from other 'more important' things even if i don't really have any.
- i have this obsession of multiplying my efforts or goals.. so for example, if i decide i wanted to buy a microscope, it would be impossible for my brain NOT to soon decide I want a microscope, telescope and also a nightvision scope. If i was developing a website for dating for chinese people, it would impossilble for my brain not to also soon commit to developing black, jewish, italian, and indian dating sites to for a total of 5 projects. It's always 3, 5 or 10.
!!!! I've been doing this for years in everything in my life!!!
Do I have ADHD!?!?! I used to think i was bipolar and then borderline personality but neither of these seem as accurate in the way i've had my life turned upside down as the ADHD.. when i was young i was called to a shrink because my iq was high but my grades were terrible.. i could never sit still and not cause trouble past the first 10 or 15 minutes of each class.. my channel's keep switching to use a metaphor i saw on a youtube video.
I am dying to start Ritalin, that's all I can say beyond this.
I was just diagnosed for the first time with ADHD and it feels like it might be right... here's the essence of my problem:
1 - Whatever I do, i get very very very excited and focused for a while but then for some %^&* reason BAM i decide I have another idea and then have diminished interest in the first - so i hardly ever finish anything. Same for jobs.. i love them for a month-three then HATE them and cannot bring myself to go back in so i quit... it's like the second i stop learning new things, i get so bored it becomes torture to keep repeating the same tasks day-in day-out.
2 - For the life of me, I cannot help but make every apartment I live in a mess.. I let it go to disgusting level, then i clean up perfectly, but then cannot manage to bother and just throw the empty containers anywhere as if i'm outside, when it gets a total stinking mess i clean up and the cycle repeats.. its not that i'm a pig, it's just that my mind cannot be bothered to put things away properly because it seems like a 'waste of time' ?!?! It takes SUCH an effort it's unbelievable, like i'm tearing myself away from other 'more important' things even if i don't really have any.
- i have this obsession of multiplying my efforts or goals.. so for example, if i decide i wanted to buy a microscope, it would be impossible for my brain NOT to soon decide I want a microscope, telescope and also a nightvision scope. If i was developing a website for dating for chinese people, it would impossilble for my brain not to also soon commit to developing black, jewish, italian, and indian dating sites to for a total of 5 projects. It's always 3, 5 or 10.
!!!! I've been doing this for years in everything in my life!!!
Do I have ADHD!?!?! I used to think i was bipolar and then borderline personality but neither of these seem as accurate in the way i've had my life turned upside down as the ADHD.. when i was young i was called to a shrink because my iq was high but my grades were terrible.. i could never sit still and not cause trouble past the first 10 or 15 minutes of each class.. my channel's keep switching to use a metaphor i saw on a youtube video.
I am dying to start Ritalin, that's all I can say beyond this.
I think it has its advantages though. I'm always hungry for something new and everything is exciting to me. Plus, studies show people with ADHD have larger memory spans and are more creative.
Ritalin worked for me when I was younger, but I have bipolar and can no longer take it. It really changed my life growing up, though. So I really hope it does something for you. Personally, I'm taking intuniv and short acting ritalin in the afternoons and I'm about to start taking a natural med called synaptol. There's also various therapies you can try. I'm planning on participating in biofeedback which is retraining brain waves. It's actually much safer than medication and for some people it has truly relieved them of adhd symptoms. Hopefully it will do something great for me. Also meditation and hypnosis can be helpful as well.
Ritalin works wonders, but it's really really awful for you. So if you happen upon anything else that works, I definitely wouldn't pass it up.
You're not alone, and that's wonderful (but it still sucks that we can't seem to not overcommit or overstretch our limits!)
Hey chailover, what's wrong with Ritalin? i never heard any negatives, just positives.
I don't really want to be relieved of ADD if Ritalin will help me concentrate :) Then they'll take away my Ritalin! Anyhow at my age probably too late, I have been crazy my whole life why not keep the train going... i just want to be able to stick to a #^&*@& project so i can finish it, reap rewards, stop moving into cheaper and cheaper apartments, it's been backwards for a decade.... i need to be able to keep a job at least... i have walked away from plenty of really decent positions and always found myself then soon hungry and suffering.. what a knob... that part must change.
Its still hard, i still put my foot in my mouth, and i sometimes do mad things but now i know im doing it and i can try to keep myself in check.
I have a really high IQ, but i failed almost every test in school, however once i started Ritalin i went back to college and started getting straight A,
Wish you best of luck and i hope you will have the same sucess i had with it.