you are free to share and talk to me here if you wish...I hear you and how it feels....take care

You are not alone. Much of what I read about this suggests that low self-esteem is a factor. I don't think of myself as worthless or inadequate. I don't think life has to be based on quid pro quo, but if people who want something from me are not around otherwise, that makes me feel used. Then, it's time to call them out or distance myself. And it makes me feel better that I'm protecting myself from users and takers.
If no one seems to listen to what I say, I stop talking, but not because I feel defeated. People commonly comment about things, fishing for opinions despite that they have their own. I usually feel good about what I say and how I say it. So if someone's reaction (ignoring is a reaction) to what I say feels like they want to discredit me, I tell myself that I will not give them that power over me.
"You teach people how to treat you".

I feel you :( x