I would think that if he's just moved in with your family, he's recently gone through some stressful or even traumatic event. Whether his parents have left him with you, or are in prison, or too messed up to take care of him, or dead, he's no doubt feeling alone and abandoned and scared deep down in his soul. Whether or not it's also because of ADHD, I don't know, though kids with the hyper kind of ADHD might be more frantic in their clinging, which is probably frustrating to you and your kids, especially if you're the kind of family that needs a lot of alone time. Is your nephew seeing a therapist? If he is, they should be able to help you figure out which part of his behaviors are due to what he's been going through to end up being sent to live with you, and not his own mother and/or father, and which parts are because of his ADHD, and which things are made worse because of the combination. Taking on your nephew is such a loving thing for you to do, but there's going to be a long period of time for both all of you to adjust to the huge changes in your lives.

Both of his parents gave him up as a baby, my mother in law has had him since he was about 18 months. She is sick with cancer, stage 4. His mom shows up every few years, on a birthday. Poor kid.
I have been trying to get him in to counselling, but having a hard time since I do not have paper work from the courts. The counselling place is being difficult. I am going to try agin next week. My Mother in law would sing the paper work but they are saying that would not work. grrrrrr. I have a letter she wrote, they are saying it is not good enough. I spoke to a legal aid, and they do not see why not. long road ahead of me.

The school has been so good and are on his side. Trying to do everything they can for him. We have seen a big change in him in the last 3 weeks. ( only had him for 3 weeks) Think the change in diet is a big factor. Has not had no pop, and only had candy once since he has been here. No take out. ( use to get it about 5 times a week before) We eat a mostly organic diet. he seams to like it!

Thank you for the post back! I am at such a lost of what to do with him and how to handle him. Just having someone to talk to is a big help. There are days like today when just the sound of his voice sets me off. have to work so hard to not let him get to me. Taking it all one min at a time. Wish me luck tomorrow is a Por D day..

That's so sad that he's lost his parents as a baby, and now losing the grandmother who raised him. You've really taken on a big load with the poor kid. He's lucky to have you now. I'm glad he seems to be responding well to the healthy food, and that you guys have a supportive school system. I'm sure the custody issues will be resolved sooner or later (hopefully sooner!). I know you're having to muster all the patience you can find - 2 boys can be enough of a handful already, and adding a new kid with difficulties and issues must feel overwhelming - and exhausting - sometimes.

I would not even call it lost his parents, His dad left his mom before she even knew she was with him. The baby she had before him, she said was his and it was not. No one believed her when she said that this one was. It was not till the DNA test was done that we knew he was family. His mom did drugs and drank the hole pregnancy. The kid never had a mom or a dad from the start. He was taken away from her at 9 months. He has had it bad from the very start!

So hoping to give this kid a chance in life. to give him what he never had.

We did have a few moments yesterday when we got him to play out side one his own. Had hoped getting him Mice Craft would give him something he would play on his own would work. It did not.. ugh. Long way to go.