Accidents Support Group
This community is dedicated to helping members recover from accidents and unexpected events that have caused emotional and/or physical distress. Some examples of accidents that can cause long-term stress include: Aircraft Accidents, Bicycle Accidents, Car and Motorcycle Accidents, Train accidents, Nuclear accidents, Ship accidents, Workplace accidents.
Is it wrong to sometimes think I could be in the same shoes as my grandfather, after a car crash. The car I was in hit a tree on the other side of the road.My parents and I walk away from the sence with minor injuries, but my 90 year old grandfather wasn't so sorry lucky. He developed spinal injuries, lost a lot of movement before is neck - in is arms and legs and couldn't walk. Lost all independent, could do the basics, could shallow and eat without coughing for along time. He spend 4 - 5 weeks in hospital, but earlier this year he pass away. He couldn't speak English, so during the time he was in hospital, my family spent a quiet a bit of time, but doctors and my family and I couldn't do anything to help my grandfather, but keep him pain free. J was only 17 when the car accident happened.
You are feeling survivor's guilt... This is something that happens to people who witnessed traumatic death of someone they felt connected with. There is nothing anyone can do or say to make you change your mind about how you feel, because it is a form of grief and greiving properly is the best thing robe done right now..
You need to talk about it, have someone be there for you to hear you, you need to heal emotionally..
If you feel like you are not healing, you may want to see a therapist to help you with grief.
I never did this and it was a lot harder to move on.
I m so sorry you lost your grandfather.